The doctor visited my Mum today as she had fallen at my house whilst staying over Christmas. It is 3 months since the doctor last saw Mum. The doctor rang me to update me after her visit. Doc said how much Mum had changed since she last saw her, she checked her blood pressure which was ok, is satisfied that Mum's medication is not making her dizzy. Mum has a burning sensation when she has a wee so Doc has given her some antibiotics. Doc has also given Mum a different inhaler which she needs to use twice daily as a preventer rather than the reliever which she uses at the moment. I hope that Mum is better with the preventer as hopefully she will get used to using it twice a day regularly rather than getting wheezy but forgetting to use the reliever. I will need to write on the inhaler casing again (suck not blow) as Mum cannot remember how to use it, which does make us both laugh.
Mum's partner was there when the Doc came so thankfully he could chat to the Doc about how Mum is. Mum did manage to communicate with the Doc also but due to her speech problems this is never easy, thankfully the Doc is fantastic and very patient.
I often wonder if Mum would be better living on her own and her partner only staying over at the weekend but my friends have said to leave well alone and let them carry on as they are. David had his third chemo session today and he says that Mum is ok at the moment and they are getting on well, so I guess we will just deal with one day at a time.
For Christmas we bought David a 30 min helicopter flight over the dales, it's due to happen on 20th January, just hope he is fit enough to be able to go. We told Mum that if she wanted to go she would have to pay for herself and within 20 mins of telling her this she had given David the money to give to us to pay for it! I am pleased she wants to go, goodness knows what she will think of it but David will be there to hold her hand. It will be interesting to see if she remembers the flight afterwards, will keep you posted.
It has been interesting reading about UTI's and dementia, causing confusion/unsteadiness etc. Mum has been complaining about her back more than usual so maybe it is pain in her kidneys causing the UTI, the dizzy spells etc, again time will tell but this is the second infection/waterworks problem that she has had within the last 6 months. She hadn't told me about the latest episode but she did tell the Doc who subsequently reported back to me.
The Doc asked me if I had thought about the future for Mum. I told her that Mum had begged me not to put her in a home but I also told the Doc that there was no way I could cope with Mum living with me, we would tear each other apart and I do not want that.
I want Mum to stay in her own home as long as possible and I hope that even though David's illness is terminal, I want him and Mum to stay together for as long as is possible, obviously with a decent quality of life for them both. If and when the time comes that Mum is on her own then I will deal with it then but for the time being I have a saying which is "if in doubt, do nowt" and that is what I will do, whilst ever they are coping with all the strategies in place, then I will be there for them whenever they need me.
Mum's partner was there when the Doc came so thankfully he could chat to the Doc about how Mum is. Mum did manage to communicate with the Doc also but due to her speech problems this is never easy, thankfully the Doc is fantastic and very patient.
I often wonder if Mum would be better living on her own and her partner only staying over at the weekend but my friends have said to leave well alone and let them carry on as they are. David had his third chemo session today and he says that Mum is ok at the moment and they are getting on well, so I guess we will just deal with one day at a time.
For Christmas we bought David a 30 min helicopter flight over the dales, it's due to happen on 20th January, just hope he is fit enough to be able to go. We told Mum that if she wanted to go she would have to pay for herself and within 20 mins of telling her this she had given David the money to give to us to pay for it! I am pleased she wants to go, goodness knows what she will think of it but David will be there to hold her hand. It will be interesting to see if she remembers the flight afterwards, will keep you posted.
It has been interesting reading about UTI's and dementia, causing confusion/unsteadiness etc. Mum has been complaining about her back more than usual so maybe it is pain in her kidneys causing the UTI, the dizzy spells etc, again time will tell but this is the second infection/waterworks problem that she has had within the last 6 months. She hadn't told me about the latest episode but she did tell the Doc who subsequently reported back to me.
The Doc asked me if I had thought about the future for Mum. I told her that Mum had begged me not to put her in a home but I also told the Doc that there was no way I could cope with Mum living with me, we would tear each other apart and I do not want that.
I want Mum to stay in her own home as long as possible and I hope that even though David's illness is terminal, I want him and Mum to stay together for as long as is possible, obviously with a decent quality of life for them both. If and when the time comes that Mum is on her own then I will deal with it then but for the time being I have a saying which is "if in doubt, do nowt" and that is what I will do, whilst ever they are coping with all the strategies in place, then I will be there for them whenever they need me.