Or as one my friends said when i told him this "F..K, Even at Xmas".. People here will be Familair with my very Critical of me's Cousin and Cousin's wife (98% of it her i MUST stress). I had sent my mum a bunch of Flowers to be delivered to the home on xmas eve so yesterday, i was down visiting my mum of course and they came in with Presents and we went to my mum's room and we are all chatting and cousin's wife saw the flowers and was all like to my mum "OH who sent you these lovely flowers" and she looked at the card and saw my name and there was a palable yet brief sense of "Indifference " or words to that effect in the air when she read it then she changed the subject and started talking about something else!. EVEN at xmas indeed.... Thoughts??.