When is enough, enough? Is it when mornings and bedtimes end in confrontation because teeth cleaning, washing and dressing/undressing are things she complains about and takes forever to do? I never get to kiss her goodnight because she is ranting until the moment I turn out the light and walk away. Or during the day when conversations frequently end in confrontation? I've never sworn at my wife in the 43 years we've been together but now she swears at me, in public sometimes too. I hate it but I've now started to mutter expletives under my breath as I walk away to avoid a showdown. That's not good is it? Maybe it's when you spend every day cleaning the loo and floor because she has a bowel problem and refuses to see a doctor? Of course the mess isn't her fault anyway. It's the pills I give her. Why is she pleasant to everyone else but me? If I offer her assistance she shouts don't touch me. Could it be because she refuses all offers of help through social services. Will not have anyone in to help, even to have a cup of tea so I can walk the dog or pop out to the shops? Could it be because she doesn't see my pain, my frustration or see my tears of sadness? Perhaps it is when she wakes me up twice during every night to say 'nobody is helping me' and needs to change her nightie or Tena panties? Is it when you become Mr Nobody? I wonder.