Hello all,
About 3 weeks ago my father’s eating/appetite started to slowly decline until one day he refused all food and he has now been in hospital for over a week. He is at best having a couple of teaspoons of ice cream and mouthfuls of water a day.
The hospital have told me there is nothing more they can do for him and I have made the decision that I want him to come home for his end of life care (he lives with my husband and I).
We are now just waiting for everything to be organised before he can come home.
He has also had COVID during this time too.
I am told he has a life expectancy of approx. 3 months and will now be confined to a hospital bed in our home. His care is being increased to 2 carers and 4 visits a day and his meds will stop and he will be administered morphine by injection for pain relief and lorazepam to keep him calm. He will also come home with a catheter.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can provide some practical advice? I’m going to get him things like flavoured milk, ice cream and mousses to try and encourage him to eat although when I tried to encourage him to eat today at the hospital he refused and didn’t have anything. I know I can’t force him and haven’t done so. His mouth is fury from lack of food and fluids - what can I do to improve this?
I work full time (from home) and work have been and will continue to be supportive. I guess I also want to know am I underestimating how much support he will need in between visits during the day and being naïve thinking I can continue to juggle everything. I do not have any other support outside of the carers (Mum died 2008 of Alzheimer’s and I’m an only child).
My main aim is I want him to be at home in familiar surroundings (he said 2 words to me the other day “home” and “Ebony” the name of my dog who he refers to as his best friend) and comfortable and not suffering but I can’t shake the thought that he is just starving to death and what a horrid way this must be to go. Also can he continue for 3 months eating little to nothing and a few mouthfuls of drink a day?
I know this is a bit of a jumbled message but anyone who can provide any practical advice would be very much appreciated.
Many thanks,
Sarah
About 3 weeks ago my father’s eating/appetite started to slowly decline until one day he refused all food and he has now been in hospital for over a week. He is at best having a couple of teaspoons of ice cream and mouthfuls of water a day.
The hospital have told me there is nothing more they can do for him and I have made the decision that I want him to come home for his end of life care (he lives with my husband and I).
We are now just waiting for everything to be organised before he can come home.
He has also had COVID during this time too.
I am told he has a life expectancy of approx. 3 months and will now be confined to a hospital bed in our home. His care is being increased to 2 carers and 4 visits a day and his meds will stop and he will be administered morphine by injection for pain relief and lorazepam to keep him calm. He will also come home with a catheter.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and can provide some practical advice? I’m going to get him things like flavoured milk, ice cream and mousses to try and encourage him to eat although when I tried to encourage him to eat today at the hospital he refused and didn’t have anything. I know I can’t force him and haven’t done so. His mouth is fury from lack of food and fluids - what can I do to improve this?
I work full time (from home) and work have been and will continue to be supportive. I guess I also want to know am I underestimating how much support he will need in between visits during the day and being naïve thinking I can continue to juggle everything. I do not have any other support outside of the carers (Mum died 2008 of Alzheimer’s and I’m an only child).
My main aim is I want him to be at home in familiar surroundings (he said 2 words to me the other day “home” and “Ebony” the name of my dog who he refers to as his best friend) and comfortable and not suffering but I can’t shake the thought that he is just starving to death and what a horrid way this must be to go. Also can he continue for 3 months eating little to nothing and a few mouthfuls of drink a day?
I know this is a bit of a jumbled message but anyone who can provide any practical advice would be very much appreciated.
Many thanks,
Sarah