Thankyou so very much....
Firstly I know the idea of a "box" is not the right presentation but that was the idea passed to me so I had to float it as such so that I can take the feedback and persuade others that it is too "in you face" in that format. Personally I would just place items round the room without announcing it at all and just those near the dying person would feel welcome to use whatever was there.
Nice fleeces now! Oh my don't I wish we could do that, I am very aware of how much is paid for people in care but how many of you realise the limited budgets activity co-ordinators work on. My fist home was £70 per month for about 75 residents, this one is £200 per month for 75 residents - we just can;t do it for everyone sadly.
Essential oils - I had no idea lavender could cause such side effects, and will now make sure I consult someone with knowledge of essential oils before I progress on this idea - as well as temporarily at least removing the lavender oil we have in a reminiscence kit we use.
Unfortunately pain relief is one element that I would be completely unable to include a this would be covered by their nursing needs and all medication would have to be administered by a nurse. I know how frustrating that is when you know someone is near the end but in pain because the powers that be have not fully acknowledged it.
"The hand of human comfort" - well nothing can compare to this and I would love to have an "on call beeper" to make sure no one ever dies alone. I know most care homes try to make very frequent checks on anyone nearing the end both in order to alert family and friends and to try and ensure there is a member of staff present if no one else is there to offer comfort.
I have been given this task because it has been noticed that I am a very spiritual person "in touch" with the elements of need and desire as people approach the end - well that was the theory. But what you have all illustrated so well, and I already knew was at such a time there little that will offer comfort every situation is different, and needs sensitive handling.
For now my kit will contain a choice of fleecy blankets, a bible, a puzzle book and pens, a selection of classical/relaxation CD's with personal taste taken into account where possible, wet wipes, moisturisers, lip salve (That was one I had certainly missed but found useful for both my parents on their final journeys), Individually wrapped snacks/chocolate bars. Some relaxation DVD's too as I found my Mum got something form them and would focus on the TV. I will also try and arrange fro an extra chair, pillows and a blanket to be left in the room so relatives can rest.
Knowing the individual and their family/friends is obviously key to this whole idea, and I could not agree more with "human kindness" being the best comforter.
One more thought - I found quite often carer kept popping in when both Mum and I were resting and everything was ok, do you think a little card to hang on the door that says something like "thank you for your concern we are fine at the moment and resting" would be a good idea?
Any further ideas would be great, I appreciate what a sensitive idea this is and all the feedback is truly welcome. xx