Don't get me wrong, I love my mum in law and would do anything for her but just can't cope with visits at the min. She has AD and VD but apart from a very bad short term memory, mobility and continence issues, she is well. But every time we visit, we go twice a week now and I take her washing as she doesn't trust the Care Home to look after her belongings, all she seems to do is moan and we go over the same thing over and over again. We are having to sell her home which she has accepted well but it's taking over our lives and whilst she can't cope with her finances anymore, she still expects to be able to keep her money but pay for care at the same time.
As I write this it seems so petty but Mum has been in care for 15 months now and we don't have a Mum/Son/daughter in law relationship, she doesn't even say Hello when we go in and I for one don't want to visit anymore, I know, she doesn't realise what she's doing etc etc but that doesn't make it any easier. I've told my husband that he will have to go once a week on his own but even he doesn't want to go, this is so sad but I don't know what to do, Mum has visitors but these people see her once every few months so it's lovely for them to catch up, for us it's just another visit where we are just bombarded with questions we have no answers to and leave feeling depressed
As I write this it seems so petty but Mum has been in care for 15 months now and we don't have a Mum/Son/daughter in law relationship, she doesn't even say Hello when we go in and I for one don't want to visit anymore, I know, she doesn't realise what she's doing etc etc but that doesn't make it any easier. I've told my husband that he will have to go once a week on his own but even he doesn't want to go, this is so sad but I don't know what to do, Mum has visitors but these people see her once every few months so it's lovely for them to catch up, for us it's just another visit where we are just bombarded with questions we have no answers to and leave feeling depressed