CAthy
Hi, Cathy, I am no expert. but I am tempted to say that if your mum doesn't want the treatment, don't force it. At her age, if isn't going to prolong her life a lot, and it seems sad to ask the question, but do you want to anyway? Very hard to answer, is that. Yes, some people live to 105, but if pain, suffering and distress is a major part of that, is it worth it? My beloved dad, who I thought would live forever, died at 79 of cancer, and in no pain at all, and I am so glad about that.
It is a sad balancing act in old age. Hope, despair, pain, pain relief, investigations, treatment, no treatment, no pain, gee....how hard it all is.
It is a fact that we are all going to die a some point. We don't know when that might be, but we all hope it is without pain. I don't really know what I am saying,, but Cathy, just do your best.
Oh dear, much love, and I haven't been any help. Sorry.
Margaret