Bookworm, replying to Necion's comment here about my hubby. Yes exactly that (I believe she would never be patronising). I have been telling hubby's medics that "his brain is not seeing what his eyes see and his brain is not hearing what his ears hear". Not been just telling them, writing in many letters. Somehow "their (his medics) brains are not hearing what I am saying and their brains are not reading what I am writing". Lx