Hello Barnsey. What some people do is write to the doctor beforehand, listing everything that is worrying you (no sense glossing over any of it) and explaining that the person doesn't realize (or simply can't remember) that there's anything wrong with them.Sounds silly but never thought of that. Hard thing is when we go my mother in law doesnt remember what the prob is so when i explain she argues that there is nothing wrong.Suppose there will be many things that my hubby and i will learn along the way!
Someone on here said they arranged while at the doctor's to sit just very slightly behind their relative, so that when (e.g.) the doctor asked whether they were still able to do their own cooking or whatever, and the relative said, 'Oh, yes of course, what a question !' - they could mouth 'NO WAY!'The docs are pretty good, luckily. But that is a fab idea as it is such an upset if we have to discuss anything in front of her. Only downside with the doc is that he doesn't bear in mind that she is unaware and so does ask direct questions, so will def give it a go!