Good Morning,
My mother in law is recently diagnosed. She is the most wonderful kind and caring woman and this has left myself and my partner feeling so helpless and not really knowing how we can help her.
Christmas has brought new battles. Every time my partner has visited his mum she has given us a Christmas card with Money in it. Also she has done this several times with my children. I have always told my boys not to take money of her. They accepted the first time gratefully. Yesterday it all got very upsetting for everyone when yet again she tried to give my children money in another card. My son gently explained he had already had his christmas money and she broke down in tears. He cried and she cried. Myself and my partner this time got presents. We both feel if we give them back this will seem ungrateful and upset her more. How on earth do we deal with this. Its ok to not correct her when she is confused and repeats questions and forgets other things, but if we gently refuse the money it upsets her and if we accept we are taking advantage of the situation...please can anyone advise?
My children adore her and want to be there for her my son is now blaming himself for upsetting her yesterday but how could he take more money from her?
My mother in law is recently diagnosed. She is the most wonderful kind and caring woman and this has left myself and my partner feeling so helpless and not really knowing how we can help her.
Christmas has brought new battles. Every time my partner has visited his mum she has given us a Christmas card with Money in it. Also she has done this several times with my children. I have always told my boys not to take money of her. They accepted the first time gratefully. Yesterday it all got very upsetting for everyone when yet again she tried to give my children money in another card. My son gently explained he had already had his christmas money and she broke down in tears. He cried and she cried. Myself and my partner this time got presents. We both feel if we give them back this will seem ungrateful and upset her more. How on earth do we deal with this. Its ok to not correct her when she is confused and repeats questions and forgets other things, but if we gently refuse the money it upsets her and if we accept we are taking advantage of the situation...please can anyone advise?
My children adore her and want to be there for her my son is now blaming himself for upsetting her yesterday but how could he take more money from her?