Hi
Dad is 88,is in a care home. has A.D and multiple health issues,advanced congestive heart failure, Artrial fibrillation, one kidney completely not working and barely able to walk now.
He is doubly incontinent, has lost many stones in weight and looks a pitiful sight who keeps saying he wants to die.
I had a phone call the other day, I was on my first holiday in 8 yrs as Mom had dementia now Dad and I could not have gone on holiday and left them before.
Basically the GP has been into Dad 3 times in 3 days and now want me to put a DNR in place. It was a shock and I could tell she felt really awkward asking me. She said the doctor has asked them to ask me what I wanted to do.
What does it all mean..I do not mind brutally honest answers. Have the doctors noticed his Sats .pulse..BP and things going down or could he go on many months (yrs) still? My mind is in a turmoil.
I spoke to Dad today to put my mind at rest..
Me... (after Dad said again I know Im dying)..Dad would you prefer to live another few years in here or be with Mom?
Dad..Does being with Mom mean I am dead?
Me..yes
Dad..then I want to be with Mom.
So sad and heartbreaking. The carers have said he has gone really religous praying lots and is convinced Mom is with him.
Any experiences would be greatly appreciated
BP x
Dad is 88,is in a care home. has A.D and multiple health issues,advanced congestive heart failure, Artrial fibrillation, one kidney completely not working and barely able to walk now.
He is doubly incontinent, has lost many stones in weight and looks a pitiful sight who keeps saying he wants to die.
I had a phone call the other day, I was on my first holiday in 8 yrs as Mom had dementia now Dad and I could not have gone on holiday and left them before.
Basically the GP has been into Dad 3 times in 3 days and now want me to put a DNR in place. It was a shock and I could tell she felt really awkward asking me. She said the doctor has asked them to ask me what I wanted to do.
What does it all mean..I do not mind brutally honest answers. Have the doctors noticed his Sats .pulse..BP and things going down or could he go on many months (yrs) still? My mind is in a turmoil.
I spoke to Dad today to put my mind at rest..
Me... (after Dad said again I know Im dying)..Dad would you prefer to live another few years in here or be with Mom?
Dad..Does being with Mom mean I am dead?
Me..yes
Dad..then I want to be with Mom.
So sad and heartbreaking. The carers have said he has gone really religous praying lots and is convinced Mom is with him.
Any experiences would be greatly appreciated
BP x