That's the worry! But my son offers to take two weeks holiday to help us and I am recycling like mad!!When moving, it is possible to have the removal men do the packing up for you, unpacking at the other end is down to you!
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We used the packing service when we moved and it was worth every penny. Really made the whole thing less stressful on my husband, as I'd just been discharged from hospital and in no state to help with the packing or moving things.When moving, it is possible to have the removal men do the packing up for you, unpacking at the other end is down to you!
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Thank you Grannie G I Started the clearout today, two bags so far 769 to go🤣We moved from a bungalow and relocated to another bungalow to be nearer our son.
This was before my husband was diagnosed but when I was having problems managing his changed behaviour.
He was unable to do anything to help and I ended up moving dozens of boxes of stuff which, had I had more support could have been sent to charity shops or thrown out.
It was a struggle and the garage at the new bungalow was used to store unneeded goods.
Even if you haven`t decided exactly what to do @Andy63 there is nothing to stop you having a sort out now.
👏🏻👏🏻😀. Well done. @Andy63Thank you Grannie G I Started the clearout today, two bags so far 769 to go🤣
hello AndyI am struggling with this question. My wife's Altzheimers is making it difficult fot her to manage the stairs. I need to prepare to bring her downstairs permanently by having a bed in the dining room. However, the bathroom is upstairs! If I add one downstairs it will make the house look odd and may reduce it value? Should I just bite the bullet and find a bungalow. Has anyone found themselves in a similar situation? Comments very welcome.
That's the worry! But my son offers to take two weeks holiday to help us and I am recycling like mad
We moved from a bungalow and relocated to another bungalow to be nearer our son.
This was before my husband was diagnosed but when I was having problems managing his changed behaviour.
He was unable to do anything to help and I ended up moving dozens of boxes of stuff which, had I had more support could have been sent to charity shops or thrown out.
It was a struggle and the garage at the new bungalow was used to store unneeded goods.
Even if you haven`t decided exactly what to do @Andy63 there is nothing to stop you having a sort out now.
Hi Anniekahello Andy
It 's a difficult one whichever way you turn.
I know moving house is a massive upheaval but having a bathroom installed downstairs would probably be quite an upheaval in itself.
If you did this, how would you both feel about what my husband's social worker called having a micro bedroom(!) in the dining room. I imagine you might be going up and downstairs endlessly. Or would you more or less live down stairs too. Would your wife still try to go upstairs too which is what she is familiar with and would it be safe to leave her if that's the case.
A bungalow might be the solution and if you decide this you could start the always uncomfortable task of sorting stuff out sooner rather than later while the estate agents and solicitors do their work.
I very much wish I had done this a year ago. In our case in our area it would have been looking for a garden flat as bungalows cost more than our litt!e house. My husband was already having problems with the stairs then but had 2 horrible falls backwards and since last November he's been confined to upstairs where there's a bathroom. But I increasingly incontinent now so....
I just suggest doing what you can while you are able to and while your wife can tolerate the change then you can enjoy some stair free time together.
That’s good to hear. Good sons ( and daughters ) are worth their weight in gold 😊
I have a son in Weymouth and a daughter 3 miles away. We plan to move to Bexhill which is 50 miles further from our daughter. She has a job and two teenage children and is now divorced, so I will try and rely on local carers to support Lesley and I, she helps when she can but has enough on her plate. Our son visits once a month.Hi @Andy63 I agree, I think moving is the answer. We were living in a house on 4 floors and moved 3 years ago to a ground floor flat with a garden shortly after my OH was diagnosed. My husband coped quite well with the move, but we did have to have some work done which my OH found challenging. Sadly we are about to move again to be closer to family and it is going to be much harder because my OH has deteriorated significantly, but we have moved quite a lot over the years and know I can manage it on my own. I am very much thinking of my needs now - being closer to family to get some help, and preparing for when I will be living alone. Good luck with it all xxx
So,so true, starred already, sheets and towels next!!Just keep on recycling and giving to charity shops - it will never do any harm and it's good to have the start of a clear out whether you're moving or staying. After all, how many flat bed sheets does anyone need when they only ever use fitted sheets? A stack of old towels that haven't seen daylight since 1990... Enough electric blankets and heated plug in throws to warm up 5 families. That's one shelf done.
Just do one bit at a time and gradually clear the decks.
And it's great that your son will help you.
Good luck with it all.
Yes my daughters have children and work full time and have enough on their plate, my son lives in Canada. My brother in law lives near them and he will help, but it means it will be easier for me to be more involved with my children and grandchildren. I want my children to have their life, they are not close to their father who was not an easy man.I have a son in Weymouth and a daughter 3 miles away. We plan to move to Bexhill which is 50 miles further from our daughter. She has a job and two teenage children and is now divorced, so I will try and rely on local carers to support Lesley and I, she helps when she can but has enough on her plate. Our son visits once a month.
I know how you feel, some days are dreadful, others ok, thank God. Yes, not much respite care yet, I just pay for the odd hour if needed. Will arrange another assessment when I move, My LA is a bit feeble on support. When my wife fell and broke her arm they sent the rehab team round. 'Ah your wife has Altzheimers? Sorry they determine Altzheimers sufferers cannot be rehabitated, you will have to contact a therapist privately'. So one feels very lonely here. I hope the new LA is better🙄Yes my daughters have children and work full time and have enough on their plate, my son lives in Canada. My brother in law lives near them and he will help, but it means it will be easier for me to be more involved with my children and grandchildren. I want my children to have their life, they are not close to their father who was not an easy man.
Just wondering if you have had a carers assessment? My husband gets 8 weeks of respite a year which helps a lot, but I know when I move I'm going to have to fight for this support again. I'm still exhausted all the time though.
Adapting our house or moving, both equally upsetting for my wife, at least moving happens over a couple of days!! We rent homes to stay in and she is happy with that, as long as she is not sleeping on her own.We have been able to change our dining room into a bedroom and lucky enough to have a downstairs bathroom. My problem is we have a large garden which for over 3 years now my husband has been unable to manage so it has become a bit of a jungle. Have just spent about a £1000 to get the worst of it under control but I can't keep spending so am also thinking of moving but the thought of sorting and packing up and the worry of how my husband will be is daunting. He was bad enough while garden work was going on. I would be interested to hear how others coped with it and did it make the dementia worse.