My husband of 53 years has recently been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia 3 weeks ago. I left him to live with my daughter 5 months ago because of so much verbal abuse and accusations of things I haven't done. that has been going on for about 4-5 years, so could he have had this Dementia for 4 years. He has always been very moody and unpredictable for the 55 years we have been together but much worse the last 4 years. I know I must go back to him after this diagnosis, I wouldn't leave him to cope with this on his own, although he seems fine, but he still gets a little aggressive when I go round to see him, calling the shots and not listening to me or what I would like to do, like selling the house. ours is very dilapidated where he hasn't decorated and big gardens. Im thinking of few years on when maybe its up to me to look after it. Its very high maintnence.. so could he have had this Vascular Dementia for 4 years and nobody know. I could make allowences if that was the case. my head is all over the place, I know I must go back, but the house has so many bad memories that wont go away, I do still have feelings for him, I cant switch 55 years off, but he doesn't seem to consider what I want its all about him and he seems to have disregarded all the years of verbal abuse he gave me, and expect everything to just go back to normal again. I'm so confused, not sure if he has actually accepted the diagnosis as he hasn't mentioned it.
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