My husband has just been diagnosed with Alzheimer's after family concerns over his behaviour and memory over the last few years. He's only 59 and in the early stages. Although we seem to be getting lots of help from community nurses and organisations to fill in benefit forms, I'm finding it difficult to come to terms with the fact that the retirement we had planned together cannot be. I know this is a common reaction and I'm doing my best not to feel bitter, but does the feeling go away? Also I was very taken aback as I hadn't realised what a poor relation Mental Health is in the NHS. I've been told that there is a 5-6 month waiting list for tablets until someone is taken off them for my husband to be given them. With an illness that may progress slowly or otherwise, he's still starting on the tablets at a lower level of functioning. Needless to say, we're biting the bullet and the family is helping to buy the tablets privately until he comes up on the NHS list. To me this is just another stress on top of all the form filling,caring and trying to hold down a part time job(now needed to fund the tablets!)I'd welcome some coping techniques as I don't want to strain mylong standing friendships by moaning all the time. There is a positive aspect-as my husbands brain clears of thoughts, his painting is improving!