Hi Everyone,
I,m completely new here.I am desperatly looking for some advice as i realy dont know where to turn.I,m so sorry it,s such a long post.
In brief,it,s my dad who i,m worried sick about.He is 72.In January 2007 he had a mini stroke (TIA) and was admitted to hospital for 5 days.Apart from slight slurring of his speech he did,nt seem to have any other major symptons but when he had a CT scan and MRI a mini stroke was confirmed.
Up to that point he had been a smoker,had high blood pressure of which he was on medication and pyrosis (sic) amenia.He is almost 6 foot and within normal weight for his height.
When he was released from hospital he stopped smoking immediately,was put on medication to prevent further strokes,daily aspirin and referred to the stroke clinic.
3 months later he went to the stroke clinic,they said he was doing well,he had a small burst blood vessell that had caused the stroke but he did,nt need surgery and did,nt need to attend any further appointments.
Now my dad has always been quick tempered,stubborn and bad tempered but he has always been a big family man with family always coming first and he,s never been afraid to show that emotion especially to me and my mum.
A month or so later him and my mum went on holiday to spain,fine,and we then booked a family holiday to florida for a year later(now 3 weeks).
Over the following months we started to notice changes but put it down to the stroke and giving up smoking.He started to get more irritable,spending more and more time in bed,withdrawing from us,he started to have memory loss at times ie we could just tell him something in great detail and at length and the next day he had forgotton it completely,he did,nt want to do anything with us but he still went to the pub as before twice a week for a couple of pints,he,s not a heavy drinker but goes to play pool,cards and a few drinks with mates.
Soon he was spending up to 17 hours a day in bed and being more withdrawn,moody and irritable.My mum went with him to the doctors and they said they think he had depression and prescribed anti depressants.He was on them 3 months with no change so back to the doctors who prescribed others.A couple of months later he had gotton worse as the meds were doing nothing so back again to the drs this time he seen another GP.
This GP said he was,ent depressed but prescribed prozac? another antisdepressant? He also went through all his other meds and stopped various tablets saying they were unneccesary and possibly creating side effects.
Fast forward a few months and he,s a completely different person,but not in a good way.His symptons are as follows
He,s so bad tempered,worse than ever before
Aggressive verbally.
Whenever we try and speak to him he doesent see anything wrong.
His memory problem has not improved although he still drives and remembers where he is going.
He starts arguments over the slightest irrelevant things.
He is so suspicious of me and my mum.
He has moved into the spare bedroom and acts as though it,s his little personal domain and hates my mum going in there (they were so close before)
He has no motivation for anything familywise anymore.
My mum lost her brother and sister suddenly this year and my dad acted as if nothing happened.
He spends a lot of time in bed (sometimes 12-15 hours a day)
When i go round to visit,sometimes he gets up and walks out of the room without saying a word and only comes down when i,ve gone.
Refuses to go back to the doctors and gets very aggressive verbally when the subject is mentioned.
Spends all day every day just sitting staring at the tv.
Refuses excercise except a walk to the pub a few times a week.
Has become quite paraniod about us.
Seems to forget some recent events but can remember things from years ago.
One minute he is in a terrible mood then the next day it can be like it,s never happened.
I could go on but in short his whole personality has altered.And i,m so worried that there is a possibility of dementia or AZ as i,ve been reading up on symptons etc and he has quite a few,although not all.
He,s my dad in body but not my dad if that makes sense.We went out at new year and he seemed to be his old self,getting up on the dance floor,making jokes,conversations but 2 days later he was back to the way he was.
We are all due to go to florida in just over 3 weeks and honestly i dont know what to do.He wont say whether he wants to go or not,one minute he,s not bothered,the next uninterested.
I know it sounds awfull but me and my husband are renewing our wedding vows and had arranged everything precisely and we,ve also paid for my parents.Now i know it makes me sound awful but i find it realy upsetting when he says he,s not bothered etc ,thats just not my dad.
He refuses point blank to go back to the GP but will say every so often 'I know there,s something wrong but i dont know what'
We just dont know where to turn or what to do and just wondered if perhaps someone has been in a similar situation or who could give their personal opinions on the possibility of there being something more serious such as dementia or AZ which i hope to god there is,nt but it just seems a possibility.
Thankyou so much for listening to me waffle on.
Take Care
Kind TRegards Nickki
I,m completely new here.I am desperatly looking for some advice as i realy dont know where to turn.I,m so sorry it,s such a long post.
In brief,it,s my dad who i,m worried sick about.He is 72.In January 2007 he had a mini stroke (TIA) and was admitted to hospital for 5 days.Apart from slight slurring of his speech he did,nt seem to have any other major symptons but when he had a CT scan and MRI a mini stroke was confirmed.
Up to that point he had been a smoker,had high blood pressure of which he was on medication and pyrosis (sic) amenia.He is almost 6 foot and within normal weight for his height.
When he was released from hospital he stopped smoking immediately,was put on medication to prevent further strokes,daily aspirin and referred to the stroke clinic.
3 months later he went to the stroke clinic,they said he was doing well,he had a small burst blood vessell that had caused the stroke but he did,nt need surgery and did,nt need to attend any further appointments.
Now my dad has always been quick tempered,stubborn and bad tempered but he has always been a big family man with family always coming first and he,s never been afraid to show that emotion especially to me and my mum.
A month or so later him and my mum went on holiday to spain,fine,and we then booked a family holiday to florida for a year later(now 3 weeks).
Over the following months we started to notice changes but put it down to the stroke and giving up smoking.He started to get more irritable,spending more and more time in bed,withdrawing from us,he started to have memory loss at times ie we could just tell him something in great detail and at length and the next day he had forgotton it completely,he did,nt want to do anything with us but he still went to the pub as before twice a week for a couple of pints,he,s not a heavy drinker but goes to play pool,cards and a few drinks with mates.
Soon he was spending up to 17 hours a day in bed and being more withdrawn,moody and irritable.My mum went with him to the doctors and they said they think he had depression and prescribed anti depressants.He was on them 3 months with no change so back to the doctors who prescribed others.A couple of months later he had gotton worse as the meds were doing nothing so back again to the drs this time he seen another GP.
This GP said he was,ent depressed but prescribed prozac? another antisdepressant? He also went through all his other meds and stopped various tablets saying they were unneccesary and possibly creating side effects.
Fast forward a few months and he,s a completely different person,but not in a good way.His symptons are as follows
He,s so bad tempered,worse than ever before
Aggressive verbally.
Whenever we try and speak to him he doesent see anything wrong.
His memory problem has not improved although he still drives and remembers where he is going.
He starts arguments over the slightest irrelevant things.
He is so suspicious of me and my mum.
He has moved into the spare bedroom and acts as though it,s his little personal domain and hates my mum going in there (they were so close before)
He has no motivation for anything familywise anymore.
My mum lost her brother and sister suddenly this year and my dad acted as if nothing happened.
He spends a lot of time in bed (sometimes 12-15 hours a day)
When i go round to visit,sometimes he gets up and walks out of the room without saying a word and only comes down when i,ve gone.
Refuses to go back to the doctors and gets very aggressive verbally when the subject is mentioned.
Spends all day every day just sitting staring at the tv.
Refuses excercise except a walk to the pub a few times a week.
Has become quite paraniod about us.
Seems to forget some recent events but can remember things from years ago.
One minute he is in a terrible mood then the next day it can be like it,s never happened.
I could go on but in short his whole personality has altered.And i,m so worried that there is a possibility of dementia or AZ as i,ve been reading up on symptons etc and he has quite a few,although not all.
He,s my dad in body but not my dad if that makes sense.We went out at new year and he seemed to be his old self,getting up on the dance floor,making jokes,conversations but 2 days later he was back to the way he was.
We are all due to go to florida in just over 3 weeks and honestly i dont know what to do.He wont say whether he wants to go or not,one minute he,s not bothered,the next uninterested.
I know it sounds awfull but me and my husband are renewing our wedding vows and had arranged everything precisely and we,ve also paid for my parents.Now i know it makes me sound awful but i find it realy upsetting when he says he,s not bothered etc ,thats just not my dad.
He refuses point blank to go back to the GP but will say every so often 'I know there,s something wrong but i dont know what'
We just dont know where to turn or what to do and just wondered if perhaps someone has been in a similar situation or who could give their personal opinions on the possibility of there being something more serious such as dementia or AZ which i hope to god there is,nt but it just seems a possibility.
Thankyou so much for listening to me waffle on.
Take Care
Kind TRegards Nickki