My poor Mum who lives with me, is really starting to decline since her short hospital stay last December and still is not eating so has lost 2 stone and is very frail. She is now constantly having to be reminded to drink her cups of tea/coffeee/juice and is not really drinking enough. I have taken her to see 3 different doctors and to be honest just get met with total apathy and they have been of no help really. One did however put her on Mirtrazapine but Mum suffered side effects so came off them after 2 days. The idea of these was to lift her mood and encourage appetite.
We are now waiting for a dietician to visit but have been waiting such a long while. She comes on 3rd April so not long now but I cannot see how she can help now at this stage as all she will do is recommend all the normal things such as adding things into food etc to increase calories but Mum wont eat or hardly drink so I don't know how this is going to help. I've tried absolutely everything as suggested on the Alzheimer's fact sheet to no avail. She used to at least eat a banana but only will peel it and eat one bite now. She refused the complan I got her too so if prescribed fortisip I dout she will drink it.
She had a uti last week and was prescribed antibiotics over the phone by a doctor who told me off for taking a sample in......how dare I suggest what was wrong with her!!. His attitude was appalling and not the first time to have spoken to me like this. My Mum has lived with me for 2 years. I do absolutely everything for her so I think I know the signs of a uti. She has finished the course but I wonder if she requires another?
Anyway, I think you get the picture that we do not have a sympathetic GP!
We always go out to lunch on a sunday. My one treat a week so I dont have to cook and my fiance comes with us and drives so I can have a glass of wine. It also does Mum good and she enjoys seeing other people, although eats nothing but does have a latte. On getting her ready yesterday, she said she didnt want to go and looked very peaky but I carried on as was so looking forward to getting out. I now feel so selfish as she obviously couldnt have been feeling well and had a funny turn as I took her to the toilet and fell backwards and banged her head again. This is now the 3rd time this has happened and I think what happens is her blood pressure drops and she passes out then seems unresponsive for a few minutes then when she comes round is violently sick and diarrhoea everywhere. The last time this happened is why she went into hospital in December as she fell off the toilet and banged her head so the paramedic wanted her to be checked over. They couldnt find anything wrong after doing all the relevant tests and a cat scan but she was given antibiotics intravenously as also had a chest infection.
This time I didn't call an ambulance because I didnt want Mum to have all the upset and confusion of being in hospital again. After phoning 111, a doctor called me back and felt the best thing was to just observe Mum. She sat in her chair all afternoon and was very quiet. Didn't eat anything as per usual and scarcely drank anything. I put her to bed at 7.30 and kept popping in but she slept through until 7 this morning.
She's very quiet today but oh so weak. I managed to get her to the toilet but she didnt go, although her pullups were very wet so she has passed urine. I could scarcely get her back to bed as she can hardly walk today. I don't know what to do. If I call the doctors they won't come out and I can't get her to the surgery like this. I don't have any help and am doing this alone and just don't know what to do anymore. I wonder if Mum has reached the end stage?
We are now waiting for a dietician to visit but have been waiting such a long while. She comes on 3rd April so not long now but I cannot see how she can help now at this stage as all she will do is recommend all the normal things such as adding things into food etc to increase calories but Mum wont eat or hardly drink so I don't know how this is going to help. I've tried absolutely everything as suggested on the Alzheimer's fact sheet to no avail. She used to at least eat a banana but only will peel it and eat one bite now. She refused the complan I got her too so if prescribed fortisip I dout she will drink it.
She had a uti last week and was prescribed antibiotics over the phone by a doctor who told me off for taking a sample in......how dare I suggest what was wrong with her!!. His attitude was appalling and not the first time to have spoken to me like this. My Mum has lived with me for 2 years. I do absolutely everything for her so I think I know the signs of a uti. She has finished the course but I wonder if she requires another?
Anyway, I think you get the picture that we do not have a sympathetic GP!
We always go out to lunch on a sunday. My one treat a week so I dont have to cook and my fiance comes with us and drives so I can have a glass of wine. It also does Mum good and she enjoys seeing other people, although eats nothing but does have a latte. On getting her ready yesterday, she said she didnt want to go and looked very peaky but I carried on as was so looking forward to getting out. I now feel so selfish as she obviously couldnt have been feeling well and had a funny turn as I took her to the toilet and fell backwards and banged her head again. This is now the 3rd time this has happened and I think what happens is her blood pressure drops and she passes out then seems unresponsive for a few minutes then when she comes round is violently sick and diarrhoea everywhere. The last time this happened is why she went into hospital in December as she fell off the toilet and banged her head so the paramedic wanted her to be checked over. They couldnt find anything wrong after doing all the relevant tests and a cat scan but she was given antibiotics intravenously as also had a chest infection.
This time I didn't call an ambulance because I didnt want Mum to have all the upset and confusion of being in hospital again. After phoning 111, a doctor called me back and felt the best thing was to just observe Mum. She sat in her chair all afternoon and was very quiet. Didn't eat anything as per usual and scarcely drank anything. I put her to bed at 7.30 and kept popping in but she slept through until 7 this morning.
She's very quiet today but oh so weak. I managed to get her to the toilet but she didnt go, although her pullups were very wet so she has passed urine. I could scarcely get her back to bed as she can hardly walk today. I don't know what to do. If I call the doctors they won't come out and I can't get her to the surgery like this. I don't have any help and am doing this alone and just don't know what to do anymore. I wonder if Mum has reached the end stage?