Hello, I'm new talking Point and have found reading some of the threads very interesting and helpful. Now I wonder can anyone help me with this problem. My husband has vascular dementia and is not too bad - mainly memory problems and confusion but the worst aspect is that he suffers almost constantly from deja vu. Every programme on the TV is a repeat - he's seen it before - even breaking news! Every trime we go into a place we haven't visited before he starts "Oh I remember this" Then he often goes on to tell me that the same people were sitting in exactly the same seats as they were last time.
Driving can be an absolute nightmare - he isn't allowed to drive now and when we go anywhere new he starts with "I remember this road - we drove down it the last time we went to ..." (a place we've never visited). If we go to a place we know and there is a traffic diversion I just shudder because he will insist on giving me directions and gets very cross if I follow the diversion signs and won't go the way he says, insisting that "We went down there the last time we came on this road." On two occasions I have arrived at our destination an absolute wreck.
I have investigated thid phenonemon and find it is not terribly common, but is definitely not unknown.
I am slowly learning how to deal with the more disruptive elements but it is a big learning curve. Does anyone else know of this problem and what do you do about it?
Driving can be an absolute nightmare - he isn't allowed to drive now and when we go anywhere new he starts with "I remember this road - we drove down it the last time we went to ..." (a place we've never visited). If we go to a place we know and there is a traffic diversion I just shudder because he will insist on giving me directions and gets very cross if I follow the diversion signs and won't go the way he says, insisting that "We went down there the last time we came on this road." On two occasions I have arrived at our destination an absolute wreck.
I have investigated thid phenonemon and find it is not terribly common, but is definitely not unknown.
I am slowly learning how to deal with the more disruptive elements but it is a big learning curve. Does anyone else know of this problem and what do you do about it?