Hello I am a new member, this is the first time I have ever been on a discussion website so please bear with me. My Grandad has dementia, he is 85 years old, and has deteriorated very fast. He is a shadow of the former man he was. You couldn't have imagined a better grandad to have, he was always telling stories, jokes and so kind he literally wouldn't hurt a fly (he would catch them and put them in the garden!) He now has become agressive, he does have his good and bad days but sometimes he doesn't even know who my nan is, they have been married 63 years. It is really my nan that I am concerned about, as my grandad wouldn't even imagine that he had a problem, he recently had a fall and brushed it off to nothing, even though he can now barely walk as well as having trouble breathing but he never complains, he has no worries really himself, he is happy as long as he is at home with his pets and (when he remembers her) my nan. But it is my nan that I am worried about, she often becomes scared of him when he is agressive, he cannot get into the bath, but does go to a home once a week where the carers bathe him when there is enough staff. He also keeps my nan up most of the night with strange routines he has, he will change his pyjamas 3 or 4 times a night, convinced that they are soaking wet with sweat but they are bone dry, he also checks every door and window to see if it is locked many times as well as other strange things Can anyone tell me of any help that my nan can get, as she is not coping well at the moment, they have looked into getting a walk-in bath/shower but the people never show up. Are there others things out there which she is entitled to? Thank you for taking the time to read this very long message but I wanted to set the scene a little first.