WORDS
WE USE
Often in our language we use words sometimes before we think. As a person with Dementia one of these “Words” that really gets me going is the use of the word “Journey” when it comes to dementia.
Can I just state categorically I am not on any “Journey” with Dementia!! I am not going to catch the 1 o clock ferry to France with it!! Or jump on a National Express coach for a weekend in Bognor Regis with it!! As I open my eyes every morning I am at WAR with this sly, pathetic disease every moment of every day. Wondering when the “ The Battle to End all Battles will begin with my most fiercest foe which will either end in myself losing and slipping ever closer to dementia`s grips, or, standing proud and loud because there has, at last, been a cure found !!
A “JOURNEY”?? I think not!!
Sometimes when I speak to people I explain that this is a terminal disease and unless a cure if found sometimes all I can think about is how I am dying and can do nothing about it. Then some ones says “We are ALL dying” or “We could all get knocked down by a bus tomorrow”
RIGHT !! First of all, the chances of us all getting knocked down by a bus tomorrow is highly unlikely to say the least!! As is the chance of the person saying this, but at the end of the day whatever the Chances are, the person with Dementia STILL HAS DEMENTIA!!! There are no “Odds” there apart from all the odds being stacked against them!!
Also, the saying “We are all dying “”?? Do you know anybody who goes through their life thinking “Ah well, that`s another day closer to death!!! Not many I would bet!! Yes, we all die eventually but thankfully not all of us die of dementia!! Or contract something that is totally incurable at the moment.
So come guys, have a heart!! Please just think about what you say sometimes and just think how it could affect the person with Dementia, or indeed their family!! I know sometimes people think by saying whilst smiling “We are all dying” but “REALLY??? you’re not helping!!
And just to finish, someone once said to me
“Dementia? My friend had that once!!
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Sometime I despair!! LOLL xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Love to all, Norrms and family xxxxxxxxxx
WE USE
Often in our language we use words sometimes before we think. As a person with Dementia one of these “Words” that really gets me going is the use of the word “Journey” when it comes to dementia.
Can I just state categorically I am not on any “Journey” with Dementia!! I am not going to catch the 1 o clock ferry to France with it!! Or jump on a National Express coach for a weekend in Bognor Regis with it!! As I open my eyes every morning I am at WAR with this sly, pathetic disease every moment of every day. Wondering when the “ The Battle to End all Battles will begin with my most fiercest foe which will either end in myself losing and slipping ever closer to dementia`s grips, or, standing proud and loud because there has, at last, been a cure found !!
A “JOURNEY”?? I think not!!
Sometimes when I speak to people I explain that this is a terminal disease and unless a cure if found sometimes all I can think about is how I am dying and can do nothing about it. Then some ones says “We are ALL dying” or “We could all get knocked down by a bus tomorrow”
RIGHT !! First of all, the chances of us all getting knocked down by a bus tomorrow is highly unlikely to say the least!! As is the chance of the person saying this, but at the end of the day whatever the Chances are, the person with Dementia STILL HAS DEMENTIA!!! There are no “Odds” there apart from all the odds being stacked against them!!
Also, the saying “We are all dying “”?? Do you know anybody who goes through their life thinking “Ah well, that`s another day closer to death!!! Not many I would bet!! Yes, we all die eventually but thankfully not all of us die of dementia!! Or contract something that is totally incurable at the moment.
So come guys, have a heart!! Please just think about what you say sometimes and just think how it could affect the person with Dementia, or indeed their family!! I know sometimes people think by saying whilst smiling “We are all dying” but “REALLY??? you’re not helping!!
And just to finish, someone once said to me
“Dementia? My friend had that once!!
????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Sometime I despair!! LOLL xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Love to all, Norrms and family xxxxxxxxxx