I'm feeling really annoyed with my Mum.
On Friday we went with Dad for his Memory Clinic appointment. This was his first one up here, as they have recently moved to be nearer me. All went well, the consultant is going to increase Dads Reminyl and also move him on to a one-a-day 'slow release' tablet that gets rid of the peaks and troughs of taking three tablets throughout the day.
He gave my Mum a few pages of questions to complete and send back to him, about how Dad is, and how his behavoir makes her feel.
I can't believe the answers she's put!
Talk about 'playing things down'.....her answers are a joke! For example, can he prepare a meal? She's put 'yes'. Well he can't! I've asked her about it, and she says that he can make toast! Surely that doesn't constitute making a meal? Can he cope with dressing appropriatly, changing his clothes, etc...again, she's put yes. So explain then, why, when I did the washing last week, there was seven pairs of Mums pants, and only one of Dads? He *thinks* he put a clean pair on every day. Where are they all then, unless he's wearing then all on top of each other.
I've spoken to her this evening about the answers she's put. She says that she doesn't want to make Dad sound stupid, (or unhygenic! ) I've explained to her, time and time again, that she mustn't be embarrassed about Dads dementia, but she tries to 'cover up' for him. Why?
She cannot see that unless she answers honestly, then they can't get an accurate picture of the situation, and this, in turn, may lead to Dad not receiving the appropriate treatment. I'm thinking of writing a letter to send to the consultant along with Mums completed forms, explaining my concerns over her answers. This wouldn't be overstepping the mark, would it?
Sorry if this is a bit of a rant. I feel frustrated that we wait for these appointments to come, we have a list of things we are going to bring up and ask, and then when it comes to it, Mum suddenly pretends that everything is just fine! And it's not!
Thanks for listening, people.
Regards
jks
On Friday we went with Dad for his Memory Clinic appointment. This was his first one up here, as they have recently moved to be nearer me. All went well, the consultant is going to increase Dads Reminyl and also move him on to a one-a-day 'slow release' tablet that gets rid of the peaks and troughs of taking three tablets throughout the day.
He gave my Mum a few pages of questions to complete and send back to him, about how Dad is, and how his behavoir makes her feel.
I can't believe the answers she's put!
Talk about 'playing things down'.....her answers are a joke! For example, can he prepare a meal? She's put 'yes'. Well he can't! I've asked her about it, and she says that he can make toast! Surely that doesn't constitute making a meal? Can he cope with dressing appropriatly, changing his clothes, etc...again, she's put yes. So explain then, why, when I did the washing last week, there was seven pairs of Mums pants, and only one of Dads? He *thinks* he put a clean pair on every day. Where are they all then, unless he's wearing then all on top of each other.
I've spoken to her this evening about the answers she's put. She says that she doesn't want to make Dad sound stupid, (or unhygenic! ) I've explained to her, time and time again, that she mustn't be embarrassed about Dads dementia, but she tries to 'cover up' for him. Why?
She cannot see that unless she answers honestly, then they can't get an accurate picture of the situation, and this, in turn, may lead to Dad not receiving the appropriate treatment. I'm thinking of writing a letter to send to the consultant along with Mums completed forms, explaining my concerns over her answers. This wouldn't be overstepping the mark, would it?
Sorry if this is a bit of a rant. I feel frustrated that we wait for these appointments to come, we have a list of things we are going to bring up and ask, and then when it comes to it, Mum suddenly pretends that everything is just fine! And it's not!
Thanks for listening, people.
Regards
jks