Hi, my 84 year old dad is about 5 years down the line of vascular dementia. He has deteriorated through several stages of this horrid disease over the last twelve months and is continuing the downward spiral. This is now compounded by the fact that he has been diagnosed with myeloma (a bone marrow/blood cancer) and has the associated osteoporosis causing him great pain, anaemia making him tired and listless and other associated symptoms. In order to confirm the severity of this he needs a bone marrow biopsy which mom feels is too invasive and painful. I understand that treatment is likely to then be chemotherapy followed by more bone marrow biopsies. I am fully in agreement with mom that we should not pursue this further. We have been advised that he needs nursing care as his needs have increased beyond what mom is able to offer in terms of physically supporting him and dealing with his non-compliant behaviour. He is also starting to get more agitated and aggressive, probably due to feeling so unwell. I wonder if anyone out there has been through a similar situation and 1) what treatment was given, other than basic pain relief, if any at all, 2) if a palliative care expert was involved and 3) if CHC funding was secured for nursing care. We are meeting with our Social Worker soon to discuss long term residential care when I think we will also be discussing palliative/future end of life care as I guess what we are really doing is letting nature take it's course. Thanks for reading and especially for any replies.