Hello everyone,
I've been on here before not able to cope but now my husband has tongue cancer as well as dementia and I'm near breaking point. Of course I am supporting him, taking to treatment [radiotherapy] and doling out meds and trying to get him to eat something, anything. I think I could cope with the cancer but the dementia is making it so much worse. Every time we have to go to the hospital I have to explain and cajole him into going, same with the meds - every item, every time has to be explained and he has to be coaxed to take it and there are so many different things he has to take. I offer him all sorts of food including the fortified drinks the hospital give him but he won't take more than a mouthful. I am at my wits end and feel like simply walking away and letting someone else deal with it. We have another 3 weeks of treatment to go and then the aftermath of him getting well. The dementia is getting worse probably because of the treatment.
Don't tell me to think about how he must feel I do that constantly but it doesn't make it any easier to cope. Stepson looks after him one day a week from about 10.30 - 6pm but it isn't enough.
Has anyone else had to deal with cancer and dementia? Did you go mad or did you find help?
I haven't the energy to wade through loads of websites looking for help.
I've been on here before not able to cope but now my husband has tongue cancer as well as dementia and I'm near breaking point. Of course I am supporting him, taking to treatment [radiotherapy] and doling out meds and trying to get him to eat something, anything. I think I could cope with the cancer but the dementia is making it so much worse. Every time we have to go to the hospital I have to explain and cajole him into going, same with the meds - every item, every time has to be explained and he has to be coaxed to take it and there are so many different things he has to take. I offer him all sorts of food including the fortified drinks the hospital give him but he won't take more than a mouthful. I am at my wits end and feel like simply walking away and letting someone else deal with it. We have another 3 weeks of treatment to go and then the aftermath of him getting well. The dementia is getting worse probably because of the treatment.
Don't tell me to think about how he must feel I do that constantly but it doesn't make it any easier to cope. Stepson looks after him one day a week from about 10.30 - 6pm but it isn't enough.
Has anyone else had to deal with cancer and dementia? Did you go mad or did you find help?
I haven't the energy to wade through loads of websites looking for help.