Hi all - I'm looking for some advice but not sure this is the right place to ask.
My mum has vascular dementia (I think). She was diagnosed 2.5 yrs ago as having vd. But last week I was told that she has an aggressive, untreatable brain tumour. Three of the consultants have said she doesn't have dementia, 2 others have said she probably does. Regardless I guess, she is demonstrating some of the behaviours of dementia, and is very confused most of the time. I really don't know what to tell her. Should I tell her she has an untreatable brain tumour? Im really worried it will just frighten her, and I'm not sure she would understand anyway or remember if I did tell her. But I feel like it would be deceiving her not to tell her...
Has anyone else been in this position and can anyone offer any advice?
Rachel
My mum has vascular dementia (I think). She was diagnosed 2.5 yrs ago as having vd. But last week I was told that she has an aggressive, untreatable brain tumour. Three of the consultants have said she doesn't have dementia, 2 others have said she probably does. Regardless I guess, she is demonstrating some of the behaviours of dementia, and is very confused most of the time. I really don't know what to tell her. Should I tell her she has an untreatable brain tumour? Im really worried it will just frighten her, and I'm not sure she would understand anyway or remember if I did tell her. But I feel like it would be deceiving her not to tell her...
Has anyone else been in this position and can anyone offer any advice?
Rachel