Its hard and I can complete;y empathise. Sorry for my delay in responding btw, had a couple of very busy work days. I think knowing nothing more beneficial can be done is a good thing, becuase it gives direction on what now is the most appropriate way forward which is being pain free or having any pain controlled, comfort and maintaining personal dignitiy and making the most of the time we have left without investigations and hospital visits that essentially would be futile. I agree with
@canary and
@Duggies-girl .
2 years ago my mum had a big deterioration with a very slow heart rate and the doctors mentioned a pacemaker, to which I was horrified given the stage my mum was already at with advancing dementia. Yes a pacemaker would have fixed one issue but not the bigger overall issue, but it would also mean prolonging living with advancing dementia beyond what my mum would naturally live and on that basis it was agreed that although it could be done, it was not now in my mums best interets for it to be done. Yes difficult, but the bigger picture is what matters.