My mother is exhibiting signs of dementia, and this Thursday she has an appointment with (I think) a psychologist with a local dementia team. My father, who is her primary carer and is finding the situation very difficult, is very nervous about the effect on her. He is worried about how to cope with the actual process of the appointment itself - what to tell Mum, how she will react, that she will become upset etc. Both my sister and I hope to be able to be there. On the one hand, of course I understand that Mum is the patient, and is entitled to information about her condition. But on the other, it seems cruel to inflict unnecessary suffering on her, if we can reasonably avoid it.I would be very grateful for advise as to how to cope.