My Mum has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, we are waiting to have confirmation of what type it is.
My problem is we've always had a difficult and dodgy relationship at the best of times but now it's under more pressure than before.
Mum has always been in control of both her life and until recently tried to be in control of mine too.
To cut a very long story short, she tried to take over my life after my first divorce to the point of not coming to my second wedding at all and trying to split my husband and I up. So as you can imagine things can get a bit strained!!
She is a complete loner, hates outsiders wont let them in the house, still lets me in on conditions, can be very aggressive and extremely rude to both me and others.
I tend to ignore this behaviour when directed at me but I do ask her to be nice when we are out.
My problem is she is stating to become dirty in her personal hygiene and in the house, the toilet is just yuk and her sheets haven't been changed and are dirty.
She wont let me do anything to help and wont let me arrange a cleaner to come in, she still lives alone, and I go over twice a week to take her shopping.
Everything is such a battle of wills and it's exhausting.
My husband has noticed how stressed I am after a day with her, but it's like a never ending cycle, she needs help but won't let me or anyone else help her.
Does anyone have any tips I can use to get her to be more happy to accept some help.
Do I just force the issue and push an already strained relationship?
My problem is we've always had a difficult and dodgy relationship at the best of times but now it's under more pressure than before.
Mum has always been in control of both her life and until recently tried to be in control of mine too.
To cut a very long story short, she tried to take over my life after my first divorce to the point of not coming to my second wedding at all and trying to split my husband and I up. So as you can imagine things can get a bit strained!!
She is a complete loner, hates outsiders wont let them in the house, still lets me in on conditions, can be very aggressive and extremely rude to both me and others.
I tend to ignore this behaviour when directed at me but I do ask her to be nice when we are out.
My problem is she is stating to become dirty in her personal hygiene and in the house, the toilet is just yuk and her sheets haven't been changed and are dirty.
She wont let me do anything to help and wont let me arrange a cleaner to come in, she still lives alone, and I go over twice a week to take her shopping.
Everything is such a battle of wills and it's exhausting.
My husband has noticed how stressed I am after a day with her, but it's like a never ending cycle, she needs help but won't let me or anyone else help her.
Does anyone have any tips I can use to get her to be more happy to accept some help.
Do I just force the issue and push an already strained relationship?