My mum suffers from dementia and due to family work commitments has been attending day centres during the working week as follows: Mon/Tues/Wed - goes to Age-UK Centre Thurs/Fri - goes to specialist dementia centre For some time now I have been noticing that there is no stimulation for mum at the Age-UK centre but they provide her a nice hearty meal at lunch-time catered for her requirements (Indian origin). Reports I get back is that she doesn't participate with activities and normally sits by herself. But she is happy to go and doesn't complain about the centre and the only thing she remembers is the food aspect. When she goes to the other centre, they provide stimulation and plenty of activities. She seems happy enough there and participates well with everyone. Her one issue is the food that is provided - no Indian food. This issue plays on her moods a lot and she gives the taxi drivers a hard time when they come to pick her up on Thurs/Fri mornings but they are a great bunch of drivers and take it with a pinch of salt. I have been thinking recently to increase the number of days at the specialist centre and decrease them at the Age-UK centre as she gets the required help and stimulation required for a person with dementia. BUT part of my family are advising me not to change as she is happy but I feel that she needs to be around people who understand the illness she has. Also, we could sort out food via tiffin by arranging with local. My feelings are that I'm doomed if I do change and I'm doomed if I don't. Any suggestions on this.