Hello,
I am new to this forum and I am seeking peoples opinions on the title topic. My dad has very bad dementia, no short term memory at all and only recognises immediate family members. He lives in a nursng home but doesn't understand where he is or why he is there. Mum lives in the same home but on a different unit (she is partially paralysed and receiving substantial nursing care). They barely see each other ,once or twice a week, and dad has stopped asking after mum when we visit.
My problem is mum is now very ill and may die soon. I am undecided on how to deal with this for dad. Do I tell him, he will forget instantly, do I leave him be. Do I take him to the funeral which will make him miserable, dad has always been morbidly afraid of death and funerals have always depressed him. Do I just leave him in relatively blissfull ignorance, possibly risking the approbrium of other family members who do not understand.
Any views, opinions or thoughts would be much appreciated.
Thank You
I am new to this forum and I am seeking peoples opinions on the title topic. My dad has very bad dementia, no short term memory at all and only recognises immediate family members. He lives in a nursng home but doesn't understand where he is or why he is there. Mum lives in the same home but on a different unit (she is partially paralysed and receiving substantial nursing care). They barely see each other ,once or twice a week, and dad has stopped asking after mum when we visit.
My problem is mum is now very ill and may die soon. I am undecided on how to deal with this for dad. Do I tell him, he will forget instantly, do I leave him be. Do I take him to the funeral which will make him miserable, dad has always been morbidly afraid of death and funerals have always depressed him. Do I just leave him in relatively blissfull ignorance, possibly risking the approbrium of other family members who do not understand.
Any views, opinions or thoughts would be much appreciated.
Thank You