Dad enjoying respite!

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by TNJJ, Nov 17, 2019.

  1. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
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    cornwall
    Dad has been in respite for a few days now.I popped yesterday to see him and watched him from the side.He was having a good old chat and a bit of a moan about his thickener.
    He was delighted to see me and I sat down and had a cup of coffee with dad and a couple at the table.A couple of the residents came over as they remembered me and asked how I was (used to work there).
    Dad then asked me to take him upstairs to his room. Myself and a carer went up in the lift with him as dad wanted to walk.
    So I got dads gutter frame and walked with him in his room and showed the carer.(She couldn’t do it as dad hadn’t been assessed with it ).He has now been assessed and can walk with it in his room with 2carers.So he is pleased about that.
    Dad and I had a good chat.
    He is aware that his memory is failing.
    He is enjoying it and even joining in the activities (They have activities up 5times a week) as they have a full time activity lady.He says he isn’t doing any (girls told me he is)but can remember that the activity lady wears a pink top.
    I said to him “I didn’t think you wanted to go in a home?” I didn’t/don’t “ he replied “but sometimes you have to “he said.
    He is enjoying his room but I have noticed he has declined more or maybe he had already declined and you notice it more in a home..He is having trouble with his left hand which is feeling cold and stiff and has begun to curl under a bit(stroke side). He is having a bath today as he needs to get weighed.
    They are also checking dad overnight for repositioning as I don’t believe he can move.So if we have to have a best interest meeting I have proof.. It was a good day all round.
     
  2. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

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    That's lovely to read @TNJJ
     
  3. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
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    That is good to hear
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
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    Kent
    It`s such good news @TNJJ

    Someone on DTP asked if my husband`s condition was deteriorating because he was in a home or was he in a home because his condition was deteriorating.
     
  5. Jenni_B

    Jenni_B Registered User

    Aug 24, 2019
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    Female
    France
    Very pleased to read this, @TNJJ. You must be relieved and heartened by his response so far.
     
  6. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    765
    Female
    cornwall
    I think it is a bit of both.Dad is getting the mental stimulation he doesn’t get at home but he had deteriorated at home last week.
     
  7. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    765
    Female
    cornwall
    It is.He isn’t fully excepting of his condition but he knows he needs more care.
     
  8. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Brilliant steps forward for you & your Dad. Hope the painting is going well
    Xx
     
  9. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    765
    Female
    cornwall
    Slowly..Very:rolleyes:
     
  10. anxious annie

    anxious annie Registered User

    Jan 2, 2019
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    It's good to hear that your dad is doing well in respite, I hope it continues x
     
  11. annielou

    annielou Registered User

    Sep 27, 2019
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    Good to hear he is settled and getting on ok in respite.x
     
  12. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    I find painting extremely therapeutic & I'm a little jealous as I’d love to be able to redecorate/refresh the house. 2020 I’ve promised myself to blitz & refresh ! Early new year’s resolution!
     
  13. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    765
    Female
    cornwall
    I phoned the home today to see how he is.Apparently,he appears very relaxed and chilled.Dad and another client went into the back dining room today to have dinner together.Both have had strokes and are wheelchair users.But they both like vintage cars,so I can imagine that is what they talked about.

    This afternoon the local nursery came over so dad watched them sing.I did laugh at that as dad never liked children :)
    Yesterday they had someone singing old Elvis songs and songs from the 50’s.He would love that as he was a teddy boy..He is always downstairs joining in.
    He has a better social life than me...
    It will be interesting as we get nearer to Monday to see how he will react to going home.
     
  14. DesperateofDevon

    DesperateofDevon Registered User

    Jul 7, 2019
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    Hope you have recharged yourself a bit, & the painting is going well!!
     
  15. Sarasa

    Sarasa Registered User

    Apr 13, 2018
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    That is so good to hear. Do you think men settle more easily into homes than women as they may have greater expectations that people will do things for them?
     
  16. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    765
    Female
    cornwall
    Although I have never thought about it ,you have a point.
    Dad has never cooked in his life and he always has had people do things for him..So maybe so.. I know he likes to give “orders”.:rolleyes:
     

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