Hi Carole, I'm just down the Coast Rad from you...fancy that. Now, for the benefit
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) of my experience....
A lot depends on how far down the road your Mum is, in terms of her understanding. In the beginning, with my Mum, it was simply a case of automatically correcting and sometimes arguing. Then it went to always correcting. cue more arguments. Slowly I have learned, thanks be to TP, that for most of the time, I'm wasting my breath correcting and arguing and just to go for non-committal now. eg. "so and so visited me last night"...now I happen to know that they died and we even went to the funeral.
Once upon a time I'd have jumped right in and said "NO THEY DIDN'T"..cue row, nowadays it's more likely to be " Oh..I haven't seen them for a long time". Not a lie, just enough to acknowledge what she has said without causing a fight.
Before anyone starts believing me worthy of sainthood
I fail, regularly, and boom.... there goes my blood pressure and temper and the peace is shattered once again.
So the answer is really simply that there is never a clear right or wrong.