I wonder if anyone can help me please? I care for Mum who lives nearby. She needs help with all meals, hygiene, and general confusion and as I am on holiday I am round there 4 - 5 times per day. My problem is that when I go home she then phones me constantly - I can have 20+ calls a day all of them repeating themselves. She doesn't remember she's phoned me and doesn't remember my answer to her question (e.g. "what time do we go to bed", "am I watching the right TV channel"?). I try to reassure her and tell her the next time I'll be around but of course she doesn't remember. On Sunday I lost it with her as I had spent all afternoon taking her out to a garden centre and visiting Dad (he has end-stage demetia and is in a local nursing home) and in the one hour to myself before going to help with tea she phoned 8 times. I feel awful and know that when I go back to work as a teacher in September I need to spend my evening marking and preparing lessons and I will not be able to cope with constant phone calls. Does anyone know if it is possible to divert her calls for a couple of hours in the evening to my brother? Or does anyone have another suggestion please?