1. Our next Q&A session is on the topic of Christmas and dementia.This time we want our Q&A to involve our resident experts, you! Share tips and advice on navigating Christmas here in this thread.

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  1. Catastrophe

    Catastrophe Registered User

    Feb 15, 2019
    29
    Just need to let off a little steam. Had a bit of a day with Dad and clocks. He is so confused, what should it be if it wasn't now I have been asked 100 times today. And there are things going around to fast on my clock i can't tell the time they keep moving. Those are the hands I said you need them to tell the time. No I dont he says, I only need the numbers.
    Tonight he is in full panic mode that he wont get any breakfast tomorrow because it will be the wrong time. He wants me to put it out now ready for the morning. I did tell him his toast would be cold by then and knowing him he would get up and eat it now then panic again, worry for an hour or two then wake me up to say he is dying because his breakfast for tomorrow was yesterday.
    I am sure eventually I will be laughing, but for now having my ears bent for hours on end is not funny. In six months time there will be a blackout on discussing clocks changing.
     
  2. TNJJ

    TNJJ Registered User

    May 7, 2019
    792
    Female
    cornwall
    I feel your pain..My dad is obsessed with time.At 11.30 He is telling me it will be lunch soon..
    We have to eat at midday as heavens above we will be late.
    I feel like I’m in “Alice in Wonderland “..!”Im late ,Im late for a very important date”!!It drives me insane so I can empathise with you!!
     
  3. BryanG2001

    BryanG2001 Registered User

    Mar 2, 2014
    60
    How about a digital clock? Only numbers and nothing whirring around.
     
  4. Rosalind297

    Rosalind297 Registered User

    Oct 14, 2017
    95

    We tried a digital clock as Mum is obsessed by time but gets very confused by the second hand whizzing around on her watch and carriage clock. It didn’t work - it had no correlation to actual time for her, there were numbers that glowed in the dark (in the bedroom) and numbers that just kept flipping over with a click downstairs but the numbers meant nothing to her. Might work for someone else of course.

    @Catastrophe I’m sorry, I had to smile at your story as we had mass confusion this end too particularly around lunchtime. Sadly though, the sun downing started really early yesterday, not helped by the fact that her normal programmes weren’t on as it was a Sunday, and she really panicked that the world had changed forever so we had her wanting to see her Mum (who died 38 years ago) and putting her coat on to go home quite a lot. She’s much calmer this morning.
     
  5. Champers

    Champers Registered User

    Jan 3, 2019
    189
    Being obsessed with time seems to be a general “age” thing. Several of my elderly relatives, even without dementia, were always asking what time it was, when did we set out (travelling anywhere) how long has it taken us, what time are you coming - not an unreasonable question, but if I was even 5 minutes either side of the specified time, it was commented on!
     
  6. CWR

    CWR Registered User

    Mar 17, 2019
    50
    I can empathise totally. I feel terrible at times because I have to leave the room when I have been asked what time it is for the 6th time in as many minutes. The general repetition drives me bonkers, Once I was wearing a nice sweater but after being told Thats a nice sweater/ coat/whatever for the umpteenth time, I actually went up to my room and put another one on! I can see the funny side in retrospect.
     
  7. Stripey3

    Stripey3 Registered User

    May 29, 2019
    29
    Have you considered a Demetria clock?
    It displays, day and date
    It displays the time (can be set to 12hr or 24 hour clock)
    And displays the words Morning, afternoon and evening.

    I bought one for my father and he loved it
     
  8. susief59

    susief59 New member

    Jun 26, 2019
    8
     
  9. susief59

    susief59 New member

    Jun 26, 2019
    8
    I agree the dementia clock is wonderful
     
  10. Rob_E

    Rob_E Registered User

    Feb 1, 2015
    171
    Male
    Liverpool
    I've also noticed this obsession with time. Mum goes through phases of asking what time does she need to be up in the morning, what time will dinner be, what time will so and so be calling here etc. I soon realised that even if I don't have an exact time for these things, that it's better to give a time anyway.
     
  11. BryanG2001

    BryanG2001 Registered User

    Mar 2, 2014
    60
  12. Weasell

    Weasell Registered User

    Oct 21, 2019
    11
    I have a memrabel2 which is a posh Dementia clock. It tells you the time day and night or day. It can be programmed to give reminders as well. It looks like an IPad hanging on the wall. Very happy with it. I also have an Alexa show. The ‘show’ has a screen so the family can be seen when chatting which is handy, but the features that may help you would be the ability to ask Alexa what the time is and also in the morning set up reminders. For example if at 11.30 Alexa said ‘it’s going to be lunch time in half an hour’ do you think that would help? She can also give upbeat messages like it’s going to be a lovely afternoon’, and she is so easy to work you just say Alexa please set a reminder for Thursday at 15.00 hours and then she asks what you want to be reminded about. I don’t like Alexa alarms for dementia because you have to say her name to get them to stop.
     
  13. philologus

    philologus Registered User

    Nov 19, 2011
    3
    North East
    Get an old clock and tell him that it is broken and you want him to help you to fix it.
    Take a few pieces off and then let him work on it.
    When he asks the time, just ask him if he's got the old clock working yet....:)
     
  14. Linbrusco

    Linbrusco Registered User

    Mar 4, 2013
    1,585
    Female
    Auckland...... New Zealand
    When my Mum could no longer tell the time, but got confused with morning, noon, or night I bought a dementia clock.
    It had a digital clock with the day & date which still was a bit pointless to Mum but importantly it had a picture of the sun from 6 am and said Morning
    picture was the same at 12 pm but said Afternoon
    picture changed to half sun at 5pm and said Evening and from 8pm to 7am it showed the moon and said night.
    The times you could adjust to suit.

    This worked really well for Mum for a week and then the anxiety kicked in. She would be waiting by the clock waiting for the picture to change.
    When is it going to change
    Why wont it change
    Do you think it will change
    What picture will it have

    Had to get rid of it .
     

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