Hi Julia thank you for that, sorry not been on since mid late Jan my husband and I are also in the process of buying and a selling our home. Finally we have chosen a care home fornmy dad. It has dragged out longer than I would have liked and i have found my family hard work dealing with it.
Some of the delay has also been dealing with the local council as we don't have power of attorney so need a loan from them.
Last weekend we saw some more and i came away from one thinking that is the one, they had a display for remberance Sunday last year, pics of royals, they do lots of activities that I can sees dad getting involved in organising them (under there supervision of course). There was also the staff and how they interact with residents and family and they have quiet a few males in the home, they even had the rugby on. Then I find out mum and my brother were not as sure as me as one of the other ones was an older building so lot's of wandering room but the other aspects were more important and I have found mum being allowed the final say when she hasn't seen him since he has been in hospital as she is worried they will try and make her take him home, even though he is in under Dols.
Thankfully they agreed with me and contacted my preference who were carrying out the assessment today or yesterday.
I never thought I would say this but I am looking forward to the transfer day and knowing he will be in the care of people who wil interact with him, the hospital staff are great but they aren't trained or have the want really to engage with him. Last weekend when I saw him he was adimant that he had been diagnosed with cancer and even had an a4 page of notes about it. I did check with the staff and n9 it isn't true!
