I am a man in my late forties who lives with his widowed father who has his property in his own name.My father was diagnosed with mixed dementia 2011.The disease has progressed this year.I had put into place in the early part of the year two 2 hr slots with an intention of expanding this to care with showering and the serving of a lunch meal.This resulted in my father refusing to shower and after about 6 weeks he hit the male carer in the face and asked him to leave through swearing.In the summer he became aggressive with myself and i had to resort to car journeys to calm him in the evening.He also had an altercation with a postman.i eventually had to call 111 which resulted in social services sending in carers to for five hrs at night to observe my father.several agressive incidents occured over a period of 10 weeks or so but i intervened to stop any injury to the carer.One carer who was very experienced told me that I was wrong to restrain my father as i was affecting his classification and I was a fool to myself.Our savings level means we are fully liable to pay for care but iI am confused because we have not had to pay for the observation carers.I have now been told he needs to go in a care home because he has been seen wakling down his drive which is close to a country A road and he was near the edge of the road.The social worker has been phoning at work asking difficult questions which I find has made me very stressed because i am trying to work.My Brother said that the social worker told him he did not think he would qualify for CHC.We had tried to introduce him to a home for respite becoming possibly permanent which we were going to fund but they refused because we were honest and admitted he ciould be aggressive.I have learnt from other posts that social workers can bias there interpretation of guide lines towards saving government money.I would be grateful if any one has any opinions about this please.
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