Thanks for your replies
Hi. Thank you for replying to my post.
Yes, dad is currently on a mixed area of the home. However, when he first entered the home he was placed on the dementia floor. My dad is a gentle and 'shy' person who likes his own space and has never been good at mixing with others. He found the intrusion of other residents into his room and at times his bed very upsetting. He was then moved to the mixed area where he has been for 3 months. He has settled well here but I would say his memory seems to have deteriorated during this time. My concern is that we often find he has been left without his hearing aid in which means he cannot hear a thing. If then asked a question he will respond with an answer he thinks is needed rather than be rude or admit he didn't hear. Its therefore very difficult to know if his confusion is due to the dementia or lack of hearing sometimes and are not sure if this is appreciated by his carers. Hence, our concerns.
What seems to have prompted this sudden wish by the CH to move dad is that he went out into the car park by himself although he's never been directly told he cant do this(my sister and I think he went to look for us as he often sits looking out of his window for us to arrive). He was apprehended by the Deputy Manager who said my dad had ignored him calling after him (but, he did not have his hearing aid in). That said, when asking dad later if he had gone into the car park, he could not remember!
I have spoken to the Manager today who is insistent dad needs to move. Prior to moving she plans to question/assess him and fill in some forms but when asked if we can be present to reassure ourselves, we were told she doesn't want us there as it might distract him from answering. I do feel concerned about that, surely we have a right to be present?
I do know that dad will one day move to the dementia floor but just question whether its appropriate right now. I do understand the home has a duty of care for all its residents and would obviously not wish any harm to come to my dad but I also do not wish his emotional well being affected by a move. My head says one thing and my heart says another. Just want what's best for dad. Maybe I'm just pushing against the inevitable.