Certificate provider for POA

[Limana68]

HI all
I am having real problems with finding a certificate provider for my Mums POA. She is in a nursing home at the moment, has ''frontal lobe syndrome'', but no official diagnosis from the consultant as she still has capacity, but bad memory problems and other symptoms.
My mum is happy for me to be POA and to save money I was going to do the forms myself, but her GP wont sign, as she is leaving, and Mum never really had any good friends which I could use. Her consultant will only sign via a solicitor!
I have tried booking a few appts with a solicitor a few mths back but Mum was having one of her bad days and refused to go, so its put me off now!

Can anyone advise?
To make things worse, 2 of my brothers are on my back thinking I am hiding something as I am not getting it sorted!!

 

[jan.s]

Could your brothers not sign? I used mutual friends on my husbands POA.

Hope this helps. Good luck

 

[Limana68]

I dont think relatives can sign can they?

I have had a big fall out with my 2 brothers over all this too!

 

[jan.s]

Sorry, no, have just checked. It didn't apply in my case!

Does you mum have neighbours you could ask?

 

[Necion]

Hi Limana, may I suggest that you get a solicitor to come with you to the nursing home so that he/she can spend time with mum in her own surroundings?
I know this would cost a bit more money, but well worth it if it gets the job done and saves mega-problems further down the line.

The solicitor would need to spend time with mum, probably alone, so that they could ensure she is not being coerced into granting.

My husband has FTD, and although he's still well aware of what's going on, he does get very tired if he's out and about in unfamiliar surroundings, which in turn makes him anxious and confused. If he was asked to answer questions in these circumstances he wouldn't manage too well, especially with someone who didn't realise they need to take things in 'bite-sized' pieces.

Perhaps consider also if mum would be 'put off' if the solicitor wore formal 'work' dress. I'm sure he/she would be happy to dress casually if asked, if that is a consideration.
Hope you find a way around this soon.

Lots of love, Necion. xx

 

[Limana68]

Thanks for your replies, I think using a solicitor is the only way to go really, so I have contacted a few, one sounded great and will visit the care home with me to meet Mum first and discuss it all, like you said more money, but I would rather it be done properly especially with all the grief I am getting from family. All told it will cost approx 550 inc VAT plus registration fee.

We cant really use neighbours as Mum lived with is for 5 years prior to getting ill, and didnt socialise so nobody really knew her.

 

[jan.s]

I'm just glad you've found a solution.

Jan xx

 

[Himself]

I wish I was a solicitor. Have you ever met a poor one?!

The requirement is simply for somebody who can confirm that they have known your Mum for at least 2 years, but is not related to her. This could include friends of yours who know her by association, as she was living with you.

H