Caring for our Mum at home

[ClaireSW]

For the last 7 or 8 months our Mum has been at home, having had a care package to 'help' with keeping her home. I think we get things wrong often when our Mum displays irrational, paranoid and angry responses to the smallest of things. I have ordered a few guides just now.... This is so hard... Hello to everyone here.
Claire

 

[Grannie G]

Hello @ClaireSW. Welcome.

It`s so good you recognise you get things wrong when your mum displays challenging behaviours because at least you are taking responsibility yourself and not blaming your mum. You know she has no control over her behaviour.

The following has helped a lot of people. It`s a tall order but has helped a lot of carers. I hope it helps you.

Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired

The following piece was posted a while ago on DSF and made a big impression on me. It is something I have referred to time after time and tried hard to follow. We have many new members who may not have seen it before. Yesterday I posted it on another Thread but thought it might be helpful if...

forum.alzheimers.org.uk

Please continue to post on the forum. There is a lot of experience here from people who have cared for parents and who are always willing to offer support and share experiences.

 

[Bunpoots]

Welcome from me too @ClaireSW

As well as the excellent communication guide @Grannie G has posted for you I found Teepa Snow videos on YouTube a brilliant (and entertaining) source of information.

Keep posting ?

 

[David Marcus'Brown]

For the last 7 or 8 months our Mum has been at home, having had a care package to 'help' with keeping her home. I think we get things wrong often when our Mum displays irrational, paranoid and angry responses to the smallest of things. I have ordered a few guides just now.... This is so hard... Hello to everyone here.
Claire

Who did you approach for a care home package? I presume it starts with an assessment?

 

[jennifer1967]

Who did you approach for a care home package? I presume it starts with an assessment?

you phone social services for a care assessment and a carer asssessment