My father was the only carer for my Mum and he died suddenly a week or so ago. Myself and my two siblings are now caring for Mum. She lives 2-4 hours from us all (we are scattered) and two of us are there at a time as she has a lot of care needs; I think my Dad was covering up how much he did, but also the disruption to her life has caused her to be more distressed which has also an impact on how she is managing. She has only just had diagnosis of mixed dementia (Alzheimers and Vascular), but is quite far advanced, needing total care. The most difficult thing is the nights; she can be up multiple times, needing the toilet sometimes, and talking in distressed manner at others, therefore we are struggling with lack of sleep.
She expressed a wish not to be in care home, and my Dad never got care in because they were private people. However, we cannot continue as we are. We are looking at homes in her area as well as where some of us live. There is also the option of Live In Care. I wonder what people's experiences have been in similar situations? She is being assessed for a place locally to her this morning, and my brother is looking into live in care, but I wonder if that will be hard given her needs at night and none of us living locally to nip in when needed.
Any advice/experiences?
. Thank-you
Elizabeth
She expressed a wish not to be in care home, and my Dad never got care in because they were private people. However, we cannot continue as we are. We are looking at homes in her area as well as where some of us live. There is also the option of Live In Care. I wonder what people's experiences have been in similar situations? She is being assessed for a place locally to her this morning, and my brother is looking into live in care, but I wonder if that will be hard given her needs at night and none of us living locally to nip in when needed.
Any advice/experiences?
. Thank-you
Elizabeth