I'm in my local carers group and it's good to receive support from them.
I'm finding that other people, whether the cared for or professionals, seem to assume that carers are able to care regardless of their own needs.
My family member is becoming increasingly confused, frail and hard of hearing and seeing and I'd like to help them with whatever they ask or whatever becomes apparent that they need but I also have needs.
I have a diagnosis of anxiety but have also been investigated for ADHD and autism. Apparently I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for either but my family member's son was diagnosed with autism on a second opinion so I'm aware that the road to diagnosis is bumpy.
It's hard work being a carer anyway but perhaps more so when I also can't remember things as just one example! Well, the thought is that I don't pay attention all the time so things don't enter my brain in the first place and I often have gaps in my memory like when you're on autopilot driving and don't recall a journey. You can imagine that trying to juggle someone else's appointments, shopping etc is difficult when I find it hard to keep up with my own even with a diary and lists.
I'd like to apologise in advance in case I say something daft on the forum. I don't always engage brain before typing or understand the subtleties of what others have written.
I'm finding that other people, whether the cared for or professionals, seem to assume that carers are able to care regardless of their own needs.
My family member is becoming increasingly confused, frail and hard of hearing and seeing and I'd like to help them with whatever they ask or whatever becomes apparent that they need but I also have needs.
I have a diagnosis of anxiety but have also been investigated for ADHD and autism. Apparently I don't meet the diagnostic criteria for either but my family member's son was diagnosed with autism on a second opinion so I'm aware that the road to diagnosis is bumpy.
It's hard work being a carer anyway but perhaps more so when I also can't remember things as just one example! Well, the thought is that I don't pay attention all the time so things don't enter my brain in the first place and I often have gaps in my memory like when you're on autopilot driving and don't recall a journey. You can imagine that trying to juggle someone else's appointments, shopping etc is difficult when I find it hard to keep up with my own even with a diary and lists.
I'd like to apologise in advance in case I say something daft on the forum. I don't always engage brain before typing or understand the subtleties of what others have written.