Hi Lesbac,
I cannot provide you with any information with regards to your research project unfortunately as I have only had experience of Australian care homes (that being where I live).
However, as a regular poster and member of TP for 3yrs I felt I needed to post to apologise to you for the tone this thread took. I cannot understand why, but time and time again when similar threads have been started on here, the result has been the same, a whole lot of angst and tension and surprisingly it has generally been those who have not had negative experiences of homes or who are also moderators who seem most peturbed by the threads???
Each time this has happened I have felt rather nervous posting because, all too often the reply has been an angry one, but nonetheless I am a stubborn mule and will continue to reply as it really concerns me that these threads always end up being a war of words that detract from their original purpose.
So it was thought that you might somehow be sneakily trying to get negative info on homes that don't provide good care...what does it matter...if there is nothing to substantiate such a viewpoint then there no harm done? If people post to you that care homes are wonderful, well then great, that gives you another viewpoint that you never expected, again no harm done, possibly good done. I know there is sometimes the suggestion on here that we don't want to have heaps of posts complaining about care homes as it makes the decision to put one's loved one in a home more guilt ridden, we also don't want to cause needless worry..BUT...sheesh if people have bad stories to tell, I don't understand why they have to deal with the angry posts that ensue afterwards, when if anyone needs support it is people who have experienced such terrible things. If there are some sad confused people who pretend they are researchers just because they want to get people to post confirming their suspicions that care homes can be less than caring, again what does it matter, if the people replying are still getting the opportunity to post about their honest experiences, good or bad??
I know it will probably be said that it isn't so, BUT it is. Constantly I feel that there is an extremely negative and unsupportive response from some very strong members on here when a post such as yours is put on TP. I know these people as much as I can from their other posts and I know that they are caring good souls in all other areas but I am at a loss with regards to what it is about posts that question the quality of care currently being provided that causes such a vehement response.
I know this has happened in the past when it has been suspected that the person posting is only trying to cause another member pain....If the person posting is suspected to be a dodgy fake trying to stir up trouble however, I would have to say that attacking them on a public forum is only going to make their words have more power not less as readers will wonder why the person who they only know as an innocent member is being attacked.
The best tactic if this was the case would be to not reply at all. If others reply innocently, no harm is coming to them, they still get to post on a topic that is important to them, what power does the dodgy fake get? I would like to think that all members on here, know that they could be at any time be talking to a fake (though rarely will someone bother to post too long on here unless they too have genuinely been affected by the experience of dementia - and if that is the case then who are we to say they shouldn't post - if they don't break the rules?)that is the nature of the internet.
However if misguided attempts to protect members from a troublemaker are not the reasons behind such threads...I am not imagining this, and I am not stupid, if I were anyone but the stubborn mule that I am, I would never dare say anything on TP that suggested that I thought care homes needed a lot of improvement for fear that I would no longer have support from other members.
The way this happens again and again with these kinds of threads, seems to be sending out a very clear message to members DO NOT SUPPORT ANYONE ON HERE THAT WANTS TO COMPLAIN ABOUT CARE HOMES. Now I am hoping to god that that message is coming across accidentally. And for anyone who wants to honestly tell me that that is not the intention then I will have you know that that is most definitely how these posts are coming across whether you like it or not, whether you want to believe me or not.
It has become an appalling trend with the same people posting their tut tuts, and the same people coming to the defence of the original poster, and the poor unfortunates in the middle who are just trying to post as per the original theme of the thread. Its time to stop the trend, if a person asks about care home experiences, either post your good or bad experience, or don't post at all, there is no need to delve into the motivations of the posters. You might protest and say yes there is, to ensure members are protected, but any poster on here could be fake, I don't see these protective posts on any other thread type that seems a little odd??