Ma's been in a CH for the past 13 weeks.
As you know it was one of the worst time of my life to get her in there and also still dealing with the "did I do the right thing?" daily.
The CH is perfect for her faith (church) and I went through the wringer trying to find it. My point being, I can't fathom moving her or starting the process all over again.
Every time I call the home:
Oh she's doing so well and putting on weight! We encourage her to go to every meal. Ma: They force me to eat and stand there until I finish it.
Oh she participates in all the activities. Ma: They drag me to all their shows, what can I do? I have to go...
She never asks to go home... Ma: Always ask me of course AND anyone else that visits.
She's a mother hen to other residents. Now that's true - when Ma sees someone upset she takes care of them.
She's great - really doing well. I asked about the bruises... what bruises?
They don't communicate with each other OR me.
Two weeks ago I asked for a urine sample as I suspected she had a urine infection.
No, they said - she seems fine. We don't see the need to, as the doctor wants our opinion as opposed to family.
A week later, the "podiatrist" came out and supposedly did Ma's feet. 25 pounds later and they look just the same. Oh no, they were here - I mean there are no notes but yes, they saw her.
Then last week there was a new "manicurist" - she mangled Ma's friends hand.
I checked Ma's hands the next day and saw nicks near her cuticle. I also saw on another hand that the nail had been ripped as opposed to cut.
I told them that this women was obviously not licensed or experienced and to keep her away from Ma and other residents.
Oh, gosh - no idea how that happened, they said.
I asked them to please keep an eye out for that as she might get infected. Oh yes, they said.
Monday her finger looked red. I asked them if they thought it was okay and maybe to put some antiseptic or... Oh no, we'll keep an eye on it. It will be fine.
Yesterday, full blown infection. Her finger swelled up, red and raw. Oh, we'll keep an eye on it.
Should they be making notes on her file about this? Do you get reports on a monthly basis about how your LO is doing?
Is this me? Am I overreacting? I've not idea what to do here.
As you know it was one of the worst time of my life to get her in there and also still dealing with the "did I do the right thing?" daily.
The CH is perfect for her faith (church) and I went through the wringer trying to find it. My point being, I can't fathom moving her or starting the process all over again.
Every time I call the home:
Oh she's doing so well and putting on weight! We encourage her to go to every meal. Ma: They force me to eat and stand there until I finish it.
Oh she participates in all the activities. Ma: They drag me to all their shows, what can I do? I have to go...
She never asks to go home... Ma: Always ask me of course AND anyone else that visits.
She's a mother hen to other residents. Now that's true - when Ma sees someone upset she takes care of them.
She's great - really doing well. I asked about the bruises... what bruises?
They don't communicate with each other OR me.
Two weeks ago I asked for a urine sample as I suspected she had a urine infection.
No, they said - she seems fine. We don't see the need to, as the doctor wants our opinion as opposed to family.
A week later, the "podiatrist" came out and supposedly did Ma's feet. 25 pounds later and they look just the same. Oh no, they were here - I mean there are no notes but yes, they saw her.
Then last week there was a new "manicurist" - she mangled Ma's friends hand.
I checked Ma's hands the next day and saw nicks near her cuticle. I also saw on another hand that the nail had been ripped as opposed to cut.
I told them that this women was obviously not licensed or experienced and to keep her away from Ma and other residents.
Oh, gosh - no idea how that happened, they said.
I asked them to please keep an eye out for that as she might get infected. Oh yes, they said.
Monday her finger looked red. I asked them if they thought it was okay and maybe to put some antiseptic or... Oh no, we'll keep an eye on it. It will be fine.
Yesterday, full blown infection. Her finger swelled up, red and raw. Oh, we'll keep an eye on it.
Should they be making notes on her file about this? Do you get reports on a monthly basis about how your LO is doing?
Is this me? Am I overreacting? I've not idea what to do here.