My mum has lived with me for the past 15 years but last year went for an extended stay with my brother (at her request) with a view to making it permanent but it didn't work out and she is now back with me. We were aware that mum was showing signs of dementia and my brother was very keen to show he could provide the support etc but when it came to it he couldn't. Whilst mum was with him she received the Alzheimer's diagnosis which to a certain extent for me has been liberating because I can see that past behaviour which I thought was cruel and hurtful was probably early signs of the illness. Anyway I am now caring for her and it is hard. I work full time although partly from home thanks to coronavirus. What I am wondering is whether there is any point in me seeking a care needs assessment as they are likely to say that her needs are covered because I am doing her cooking cleaning washing shopping etc. She can do things for herself like make a cup of tea and I always leave treats out which she loves and is quite happy to help herself to. But when left to make a sandwich she used raw bacon instead of ham and easy garlic in stead of pickle. I don't think she would remember how to use the cooker or the washing machine. I have to persuade her to give me her dirty clothes or she will just rinse them through in the sink. When she was with my brother she called me at least 8 times a day as she was lonely and not sure where she was etc but now when I have been in work she has started that again if she is home alone. Fortunately my 20 year old daughter and 21 year old niece live with me so they have also been working from home but I am sure they will soon be back in the office. I don't know what help to ask for and maybe feel that I just have to try harder, be more organised and get on with it