Margaret, it is so good to hear of the wonderful visit you were able to have with George tonight. I can only imagine how difficult this separation must be for you. And yet, if having him go to this home was the best decision at the time it surely will prove to be the right decision as time goes on.
Best wishes to you both,
Thanks for taking the time to reply, I have read your story with great interest, and admire you so much for keeping your darling wife at home, I can feel your love for her in your story. I don't think I will ever forgive myself for giving in, and putting George into care, nice and all as the Care Home is and the attention shown to the small amount of patients, it is not home and I know that I could and would do a lot more for George, I knew him so well after 49 years of marriage, I knew what he liked and how proud he was of his appearance. It is just not the same, but then nothing ever will be. This beast within, has stolen everything, and I am so angry at it
for taking my beautiful husband from me. How sad that Sharon developed dementia so early on in life, just when you had it all planned what you might do in retirement. George is 72 and I will be 70 this year, and even I feel this is young. We did enjoy 10 years of perfect retirement when each others company was all we needed. I can identify myself with the loneliness of Sisyphus because like you my tasks were endless repetition. But the loneliness I feel now is a hundred times worse, because without George by my side, life has no meaning, the endless tasks are still repetitive, but with no one to share them with. I am off to see him tonight, I might take him out for a walk, it is a beautiful night but still pretty cold for the time of year. Our son is taking me up, he moved from London after 28 years there back to his home town with his family, I am afraid I am not giving them all the attention I should, but I can never take my mind off George, the love of my life.
Take care, and much love
Margaret