My Dad 83 mixed dementia, lung, kidney issues, high BP, prostate cancer, and an abdominal aneurysm, went into care 7 mnths ago. He still has good mobility.
Awaiting cataract op next week.
My Mum who had been in the same care home 5 yrs, but passed away 7 weeks ago.
I dont wish to offend, and I know this can be common with dementia, but yesterday I receved a call to advise me that Dad and a new lady resident, that Dad took a shine to , prior to Mum passing, were found in this ladys room by a carer, both in bed together.
My Dad has always been such a prude all his life, and is so private when it comes to toileting and showering , that we just cant beleive it.
Of course we have the issue with both of them having dementia and consent , forgetting , etc
Lady in late 60’s doesnt have a husband.
Staff obviously have come across this before so keeping an eye on the situation, but have also asked both families our thoughts.
I dont know what to think to be honest. We dont feel we should even mention anything to Dad as he would deny it ( even if he does remember) and it would cause more upset.
Apparently he was very embarrased at the time being caught, and wouldnt talk to the Manager, but today as if nothings happened of course.
Any advice here?
Awaiting cataract op next week.
My Mum who had been in the same care home 5 yrs, but passed away 7 weeks ago.
I dont wish to offend, and I know this can be common with dementia, but yesterday I receved a call to advise me that Dad and a new lady resident, that Dad took a shine to , prior to Mum passing, were found in this ladys room by a carer, both in bed together.
My Dad has always been such a prude all his life, and is so private when it comes to toileting and showering , that we just cant beleive it.
Of course we have the issue with both of them having dementia and consent , forgetting , etc
Lady in late 60’s doesnt have a husband.
Staff obviously have come across this before so keeping an eye on the situation, but have also asked both families our thoughts.
I dont know what to think to be honest. We dont feel we should even mention anything to Dad as he would deny it ( even if he does remember) and it would cause more upset.
Apparently he was very embarrased at the time being caught, and wouldnt talk to the Manager, but today as if nothings happened of course.
Any advice here?