Sorry if these have been asked before - I did search.
Also, is there a forum/section for just care home questions?
Ma went into a carehome last week. Quite honestly the hardest and worst day of my life. Ma did not disappoint by becoming completely lucid for the first time in a year and refusing to stay, eventually storming out and found the lift (we couldn't!), with me running in the opposite direction to get out thru stairs. 🙈
I had made sure with the manager that Ma would have only female carers. They asked for a care plan and I gave them a very detailed one.
I've spoken to staff and they say "she's fine" and Ma does comply with "authority" figures.
I've told them that Ma has a light appetite - yet they encourage her to come and eat for every meal. Ma has told me that she feels sick and eats too much but she goes as they come get her and she complies.
She's also very skittery about people coming into her room. They come in to check every 2 hours in middle of the night.
And yes, she is leaving and won't be staying anymore (according to her)
I'm going to call the Team Leader today and ask these questions - and wondering if these are ok to ask or if I should ask a different way.
Confirming female carers only
Asking them to lighten or minimise meals?
Asking if they can not check as often at night - In fact, maybe moving her bed so they can add a sensor mat
Checking with me before getting her hair cut (so they ask for money for pocket money that goes into an account and they will do her hair and so on. But she does not have the capacity to know IF she wants her hair done yet they took her to do that yesterday.)
Will they let me know if there are any "accidents" - bed wetting I mean?
Also, is there a forum/section for just care home questions?
Ma went into a carehome last week. Quite honestly the hardest and worst day of my life. Ma did not disappoint by becoming completely lucid for the first time in a year and refusing to stay, eventually storming out and found the lift (we couldn't!), with me running in the opposite direction to get out thru stairs. 🙈
I had made sure with the manager that Ma would have only female carers. They asked for a care plan and I gave them a very detailed one.
I've spoken to staff and they say "she's fine" and Ma does comply with "authority" figures.
I've told them that Ma has a light appetite - yet they encourage her to come and eat for every meal. Ma has told me that she feels sick and eats too much but she goes as they come get her and she complies.
She's also very skittery about people coming into her room. They come in to check every 2 hours in middle of the night.
And yes, she is leaving and won't be staying anymore (according to her)
I'm going to call the Team Leader today and ask these questions - and wondering if these are ok to ask or if I should ask a different way.
Confirming female carers only
Asking them to lighten or minimise meals?
Asking if they can not check as often at night - In fact, maybe moving her bed so they can add a sensor mat
Checking with me before getting her hair cut (so they ask for money for pocket money that goes into an account and they will do her hair and so on. But she does not have the capacity to know IF she wants her hair done yet they took her to do that yesterday.)
Will they let me know if there are any "accidents" - bed wetting I mean?