This may be a daft question, but it's concerning me at the moment.
My mum is currently in a secure ward under a section 2. She was detained due to her aggression and it's unpredicatability. Before she was detained it had already been decided that mum lacked capacity when it came to her illness.
Since moving to the secure unit mum had been mostly calm and quiet in front of the staff, just occasionally tearful asking to go home. The nurse I spoke with on Monday said mum masks her illness to an incredible degree and for long periods. She said if she didn't know mum had dementia she's never have guessed.
The consultant allocated to mum in the unit is the same doctor she has at the memory clinic and he has never seemed to take on board anything I have said. He seems to take mum's I'm fine, I cook, clean, shop etc at face value and I've always felt he was dismissive regarding her aggression.
Mum will see this consultant in Friday when he does ward rounds and I fully expect that he will say she is ready for discharge. She's not displaying aggression so he's right, but my concern is over what happens next.
Mum and I jointly own our house so I assume she has every right in the normal way of things to live there, but I don't really believe that mum's aggression has suddenly vanished. I think her calmness is a mask. She cetainly wasn't calm when I saw her on Wednesday, once we were alone she was ranting and sobbing and calling me for everything.
My concern is that we have a consultant who plays down her problems, could he decide that she actually has capacity and can decide for herself that she wants to return home rather than go into residential care.
I know I sound like a nightmare daughter, but I had lived with mum's aggression for months. The most serious incidents involved her trying to strangle me, coming at me with a knife (only a table one as anything sharper was hidden) and on Christmas Eve she came at me with a hammer. I don't want to live under the fear of what the next attack could be any more. As sad as it is I think I would prefer she were in a care home unless I was certain her aggression was under control.
When mum demands to go home she means to her mum and a long demolished property. She was walking off from our actual home several times a day. Being here would not make her happy. I'm really concerned that the consultant could say she's ok to decide where she wants to live and that she could return home when it would put me back in danger and her back to storming off to find her mum and her home.
Can a lack of capacity decision be reversed when it comes to someone having a degenerative illness such as alzheimers?
My mum is currently in a secure ward under a section 2. She was detained due to her aggression and it's unpredicatability. Before she was detained it had already been decided that mum lacked capacity when it came to her illness.
Since moving to the secure unit mum had been mostly calm and quiet in front of the staff, just occasionally tearful asking to go home. The nurse I spoke with on Monday said mum masks her illness to an incredible degree and for long periods. She said if she didn't know mum had dementia she's never have guessed.
The consultant allocated to mum in the unit is the same doctor she has at the memory clinic and he has never seemed to take on board anything I have said. He seems to take mum's I'm fine, I cook, clean, shop etc at face value and I've always felt he was dismissive regarding her aggression.
Mum will see this consultant in Friday when he does ward rounds and I fully expect that he will say she is ready for discharge. She's not displaying aggression so he's right, but my concern is over what happens next.
Mum and I jointly own our house so I assume she has every right in the normal way of things to live there, but I don't really believe that mum's aggression has suddenly vanished. I think her calmness is a mask. She cetainly wasn't calm when I saw her on Wednesday, once we were alone she was ranting and sobbing and calling me for everything.
My concern is that we have a consultant who plays down her problems, could he decide that she actually has capacity and can decide for herself that she wants to return home rather than go into residential care.
I know I sound like a nightmare daughter, but I had lived with mum's aggression for months. The most serious incidents involved her trying to strangle me, coming at me with a knife (only a table one as anything sharper was hidden) and on Christmas Eve she came at me with a hammer. I don't want to live under the fear of what the next attack could be any more. As sad as it is I think I would prefer she were in a care home unless I was certain her aggression was under control.
When mum demands to go home she means to her mum and a long demolished property. She was walking off from our actual home several times a day. Being here would not make her happy. I'm really concerned that the consultant could say she's ok to decide where she wants to live and that she could return home when it would put me back in danger and her back to storming off to find her mum and her home.
Can a lack of capacity decision be reversed when it comes to someone having a degenerative illness such as alzheimers?
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