Well its been a couple of years! I lost my mum to dementia in April 21. She was in a care home and we were able to see her the day before she passed.
For a few months I have noticed that my dad is showing signs of dementia.
He still lives independently, he still drives (although we try to pick him up or get him Ubers as much as possible), I have a tracker on his phone - Life360, its amazing! He belongs to a couple of social groups that meet up twice a week and he does light shopping.
His short term memory is shot, gone.......but it is now becoming apparent that his long term (the last few years) memory is going too.
He is a (was) a kind person, even though we have never been a lovey dovey family, he doesn't swear, he never used to say horrible things.........NOW, omg, he snaps! Just goes, BANG, on Sunday he accused me of not giving him the information about my mums funeral and why wouldn't I tell him when she died. He accused my husband of taking his car and scratching it. He has accused the cleaner of stealing money, which I know she has not. I don't even think the money was in the house in the first place.
He keeps saying that my mums funeral had been covered by an insurance policy, which it wasn't. And I know that I am not meant to correct him or contradict him, so this one I went along with and said "oh ok, have you got a policy" and he looked at me like I had two heads!
Some of the things I admit I had to tell him were incorrect, like my husband taking the car and the cleaner stealing the money. But he gets that really vicious look in his eyes.
I dread to think what he tells people at the social club! One of the so called "welfare" people from the group contacted me and told me that my dad was looking thin, like I don't see him three times a week........is she trying to pile even more guilt on me.
I could go on and on but I fear that you will get bored and bog off! This is just me having a rant and getting my words out there. My husband is so supportive but its just the two of us, I have no one else I can tell all this to. I am protecting family back in the UK as there is nothing they can do and at the end of the day if I say anything they just say "oh, grandad hes such a wind up, bless him", yeah! Not helpful!
Anyway, now I really am boring you to the back teeth.
Thank you to those who stayed to the end,
We live to fight another day in this world of dementia and confusion.
xxx
For a few months I have noticed that my dad is showing signs of dementia.
He still lives independently, he still drives (although we try to pick him up or get him Ubers as much as possible), I have a tracker on his phone - Life360, its amazing! He belongs to a couple of social groups that meet up twice a week and he does light shopping.
His short term memory is shot, gone.......but it is now becoming apparent that his long term (the last few years) memory is going too.
He is a (was) a kind person, even though we have never been a lovey dovey family, he doesn't swear, he never used to say horrible things.........NOW, omg, he snaps! Just goes, BANG, on Sunday he accused me of not giving him the information about my mums funeral and why wouldn't I tell him when she died. He accused my husband of taking his car and scratching it. He has accused the cleaner of stealing money, which I know she has not. I don't even think the money was in the house in the first place.
He keeps saying that my mums funeral had been covered by an insurance policy, which it wasn't. And I know that I am not meant to correct him or contradict him, so this one I went along with and said "oh ok, have you got a policy" and he looked at me like I had two heads!
Some of the things I admit I had to tell him were incorrect, like my husband taking the car and the cleaner stealing the money. But he gets that really vicious look in his eyes.
I dread to think what he tells people at the social club! One of the so called "welfare" people from the group contacted me and told me that my dad was looking thin, like I don't see him three times a week........is she trying to pile even more guilt on me.
I could go on and on but I fear that you will get bored and bog off! This is just me having a rant and getting my words out there. My husband is so supportive but its just the two of us, I have no one else I can tell all this to. I am protecting family back in the UK as there is nothing they can do and at the end of the day if I say anything they just say "oh, grandad hes such a wind up, bless him", yeah! Not helpful!
Anyway, now I really am boring you to the back teeth.
Thank you to those who stayed to the end,
We live to fight another day in this world of dementia and confusion.
xxx
