Hi all, My dear mum is 90 with dementia or should I say, was a young glamourous 90 year old, until a chest infection this feb, which lasted about 6 months. Since then she has lost 3 stone, is bed ridden and her dementia has got a lot, lot worse. She now constantly cries, panics and doesn't remember some of the family, including my young son and even her dear beloved husband who she doted on for 60 years. She constantly rips old photos up and squashed her wedding and engagement rings onto her finger somehow and had to had them cut off in hospital. My sister went to see her the other day and she was crying uncontrollably for 2 hours and said she thought she was going mad. She says her mind is very jumbled and doesn't understand why? It's all very up and down. Btw she's in a nursing home and is well cared for. The thing is, we are very close and I'm so scared to go and see her, incase she's in a state. I can't bear to think of her confused and panicky, it fills me with so much sadness I can't concentrate on anything. All I want to do is curl up, go to sleep and forget everything. I just can't cope anymore seeing her like this. Please help with advice.