hi
i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. my mum is displaying all the signs of dementia but is refusing to go to a doctor or be diagnosed by anyone. she's losing her short term memory and cannot remember conversations she had either today or yesterday. she keeps repeating questions she's asked because she can't remember asking them. she's losing everything - from her keys to her credit cards to her car!
i think she's in total denial and is refusing to accept help. however she seems to be crying out for help by landing myself and her friends with her problems to sort out - ie. "i've lost my car, have no money on me, can you come and rescue me". this has been going on for a year and we're all exasperated and at the end of our tether
all of us have talked to her to ask her to go and see a doctor - this has ranged from gently suggesting she has a problem to outright telling her that she has and that she needs to see someone. forcing the issue seems to agitate her more, but leaving her to her own devices is just covering up the problem and it's got too serious. i've spoken to her GP but he politely tells me that there's nothing he can do unless she comes to him!
I have no idea what to do anymore. she is antagonising all her friends, causing chaos wherever she goes because she can't see the effect her behaviour is having on everyone. meanwhile, she has nowhere to live - has lost her ability to reason or think logically or take responsibility for herself
i don't know what to do or how to handle her - i'm not trained in this area and don't know much about it. i'm finding her behaviour so erratic and unmanageable.
can anyone give any advice?
shonadh x
i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. my mum is displaying all the signs of dementia but is refusing to go to a doctor or be diagnosed by anyone. she's losing her short term memory and cannot remember conversations she had either today or yesterday. she keeps repeating questions she's asked because she can't remember asking them. she's losing everything - from her keys to her credit cards to her car!
i think she's in total denial and is refusing to accept help. however she seems to be crying out for help by landing myself and her friends with her problems to sort out - ie. "i've lost my car, have no money on me, can you come and rescue me". this has been going on for a year and we're all exasperated and at the end of our tether
all of us have talked to her to ask her to go and see a doctor - this has ranged from gently suggesting she has a problem to outright telling her that she has and that she needs to see someone. forcing the issue seems to agitate her more, but leaving her to her own devices is just covering up the problem and it's got too serious. i've spoken to her GP but he politely tells me that there's nothing he can do unless she comes to him!
I have no idea what to do anymore. she is antagonising all her friends, causing chaos wherever she goes because she can't see the effect her behaviour is having on everyone. meanwhile, she has nowhere to live - has lost her ability to reason or think logically or take responsibility for herself
i don't know what to do or how to handle her - i'm not trained in this area and don't know much about it. i'm finding her behaviour so erratic and unmanageable.
can anyone give any advice?
shonadh x