Mum has broken teeth, the local dentist has been keeping a watch on roots, and advised root removal was required as there was infection, so Mum was referred to hospital.
I live over 200 miles away and take Mum for the local dental check ups when I visit, as my brother will not take her for check ups, but my brother, who lives with Mum, did said he would do any follow up.
Both I and my brother find dentristry very difficult.
My brother did take Mum to the hospital appointment.
The hospital thought general anesthesia unwise, and local anesthesia would require several follow ups and I think this was a stumbling block for my brother, who finds Mum very tough to cope with.
Mum said she is not in any dental pain - she will complain a lot about her knees when they hurt, so I guess that is true, though I am not convinced. My brother said that Mum also declared she did not want any dental work done.
I feel guilty for not making the trip down for the hospital appointment as I feel that the outcome may have been different if I had gone with Mum - it is me who has insisted she have fillings when the local dentist said it was necessary.
I also feel like a bad daughter as I know I would not have wanted to do the several follow ups that might have been necessary had they decided the removal should go ahead.
So I continue to feel guilty - is there any advice on how I might dispel that guilt, as it is not helping me, my husband, my Mum or my family.
Jackie
I live over 200 miles away and take Mum for the local dental check ups when I visit, as my brother will not take her for check ups, but my brother, who lives with Mum, did said he would do any follow up.
Both I and my brother find dentristry very difficult.
My brother did take Mum to the hospital appointment.
The hospital thought general anesthesia unwise, and local anesthesia would require several follow ups and I think this was a stumbling block for my brother, who finds Mum very tough to cope with.
Mum said she is not in any dental pain - she will complain a lot about her knees when they hurt, so I guess that is true, though I am not convinced. My brother said that Mum also declared she did not want any dental work done.
I feel guilty for not making the trip down for the hospital appointment as I feel that the outcome may have been different if I had gone with Mum - it is me who has insisted she have fillings when the local dentist said it was necessary.
I also feel like a bad daughter as I know I would not have wanted to do the several follow ups that might have been necessary had they decided the removal should go ahead.
So I continue to feel guilty - is there any advice on how I might dispel that guilt, as it is not helping me, my husband, my Mum or my family.
Jackie